Gays already serve. Have been for years. They just don't want to be treated unfairly once they're found out.
rltw
That's why don't ask don't tell was a good policy. There is no reason gays shouldn't serve and making it as it was before don't ask don't tell made it a serious security risk because of blackmail.
The one question so far every liberal has failed to answer is why it's necessary for them to tell. They are in the military, why do they have the burning need to tell the military they want to have sex with other men? When liberals can answer that question so that the answer is not a political statement I'll support it and not until then. No soldier should join the military to make any political statement, they should join the military to defend their country.
I don't think the issue is a need to tell. Instead, I think it is not having to worry that if someone is found out to be gay, they will be discharged.
Would you describe it as needing to tell people you are a heterosexual if you discussed your spouse? I certainly would not, yet that seems to be what you are saying when it comes to homosexuals.