High_Gravity
Belligerent Drunk
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Except that it seems only relatively recently that humans have developed a problem with it. I personally suspect that we're just too spoiled to be able to manage the sort of self-sacrifice necessary for a lasting relationship.
Your probably right, that or the previous generations took the until death do us part literally and stayed together no matter how miserable they were.
Again, I think that's the "spoiled" part speaking that assumes they were miserable. Humans are amazingly adaptable creatures; once you take out the flighty, "I can just leave when it stops being a fairy tale" aspect, I'd say most people found a way to be happy anyway.
I say this because I've been married to my husband for seventeen years and counting. Is it perfect? No. Does it have problems? Hell, yes. Am I going anywhere? No, so I work with what's here to be happy anyway.
I think it's also only relatively recently that people have gotten the notion that life is supposed to make them happy, instead of happiness being something that they produce inside themselves.
I think alot of people come into marriage with unrealistic expectations that everything will automatically be better, when that doesn't happen they are running for the door. Unrealistic wedding shows on tv like the Kardashians and Kendra doesn't help either because that isn't the marriages 99% of people are having, but thats what people want.