Why would anyone join when your neighbor isn't a member?it already does. it's called HOAs and all homeowners get to vote on what can and cannot be done in the neighborhood/properties/etc.
the best thing for people that don't want to abide by the covenants of their HOA, is to not be part of one (or win the vote). at one time i hated HOAs. now, i like them. it keeps the guy down the street from turning his property into a dump and killing all of our property values. and we all got a vote on what is/isn't allowed. no government was involved.
The HOA is the government in this example dummy.
which you don't have to join. now, name me one other government that you don't have to join. your local government? state? federal?
that's the key. it's voluntary. if a person doesn't understand that, then the conversation isn't going to go far.