OK analyze THIS to death:
Should white mom be paid for brown baby mistake - Houston Chronicle
1. One angle: The company impregnated with the wrong donor and not the one selected, regardless of race:
"They're not saying anything racist, they're not saying we don't want a black baby," Barrow said of Cramblett and Zinkon, who profess their love for their now 2-year-old daughter. "They're saying, we asked for something, you gave us something different, and now we have to adjust to that."
2. Another view: Why should these parents get to sue for compensation/inconvenience that other biracial or black kids and their parents have to deal with:
That "adjustment" is a major justification for Cramblett's lawsuit. It cites the stress and anxiety of raising a brown girl in predominantly white Uniontown, Ohio, which Cramblett describes as intolerant. Some of her own family members have unconscious racial biases, the lawsuit says.
That leads some to believe that Cramblett is asking to be paid for the difficulties that many black folks — and white parents of adopted black children — deal with without compensation.
"I don't think I deserve anything more being the white parent of a black child than any parent of a black child does," says Rory Mullen, who adopted her daughter.
3. Another view: is compensation going to help the parents and daughter adjust, is it going to affect the child adversely concerning racial or social expectations, is it within the parents' rights to sue just because of reason #1 that the company did not use the donor the couple had chosen and failed to meet the contract?
Personally I think dealing with the racial relations is personal and up to the people involved to figure out their spiritual path in handling whatever comes up. I know I would need to rely on faith that there is some positive purpose in this; it would be hard for me to focus if I only resented and regretted this, and would be better able to cope if I aimed for positive goals to explore, especially for the daughter's sake; but that is personal and can only be chosen and worked out by the people themselves.
What do you think?
Are you okay separating the racial issues from the fact the company didn't follow the couple's choices?
Are you okay with the couple being open with others and their child that they didn't want or choose to raise a biracial child and have to deal with the social circumstances that come with it?
If you were in this couple's shoes and felt you didn't get what you paid for,
how would you respond?
Should white mom be paid for brown baby mistake - Houston Chronicle
1. One angle: The company impregnated with the wrong donor and not the one selected, regardless of race:
"They're not saying anything racist, they're not saying we don't want a black baby," Barrow said of Cramblett and Zinkon, who profess their love for their now 2-year-old daughter. "They're saying, we asked for something, you gave us something different, and now we have to adjust to that."
2. Another view: Why should these parents get to sue for compensation/inconvenience that other biracial or black kids and their parents have to deal with:
That "adjustment" is a major justification for Cramblett's lawsuit. It cites the stress and anxiety of raising a brown girl in predominantly white Uniontown, Ohio, which Cramblett describes as intolerant. Some of her own family members have unconscious racial biases, the lawsuit says.
That leads some to believe that Cramblett is asking to be paid for the difficulties that many black folks — and white parents of adopted black children — deal with without compensation.
"I don't think I deserve anything more being the white parent of a black child than any parent of a black child does," says Rory Mullen, who adopted her daughter.
3. Another view: is compensation going to help the parents and daughter adjust, is it going to affect the child adversely concerning racial or social expectations, is it within the parents' rights to sue just because of reason #1 that the company did not use the donor the couple had chosen and failed to meet the contract?
Personally I think dealing with the racial relations is personal and up to the people involved to figure out their spiritual path in handling whatever comes up. I know I would need to rely on faith that there is some positive purpose in this; it would be hard for me to focus if I only resented and regretted this, and would be better able to cope if I aimed for positive goals to explore, especially for the daughter's sake; but that is personal and can only be chosen and worked out by the people themselves.
What do you think?
Are you okay separating the racial issues from the fact the company didn't follow the couple's choices?
Are you okay with the couple being open with others and their child that they didn't want or choose to raise a biracial child and have to deal with the social circumstances that come with it?
If you were in this couple's shoes and felt you didn't get what you paid for,
how would you respond?