Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

[JBeukema]

Have you ever been the perpetrator/victim of a self-fulfilling prophecy? I have. I once cared for someone deeply and never wanted to let them go. However, because I was so afraid I'd lose them, I held on too tightly. I didn't let them breathe, and it ended up pushing them away.

It can be hard to loosen your grip and let there be some distance sometimes, especially if you've lost people before and are scared of losing someone else. Yet in holding on so tightly that that love becomes toxic we can bring about thew very thing we fear most. As hard as it is, sometimes you have to loosen your grip and let that someone have their space. If your love is true, they won't stray far and they'll come back in the end, even if it's only as a dear friend and not as the partner you thought they were.

It can be the hardest thing to do, to loosen your hold and watch the distance between you and the person you love grow, but if you are tethered to one another by true love, then they will never truly leave you, even if they are away for the moment. If you allow you hold to become unhealthy ad toxic, however, they can feel no option but to leave or suffocate- causing you to lose the person you care about most and bringing into reality your greatest fear.

Sometimes you must let go and let love do its thing...

I don't know whether you're read this thread or reply, but if you read it just know that you're not the only one to go through this and that you're not alone. Don't let your fear control you and destroy what you have. You must let go of your fear and let love do its work

 

[Tank]

[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJtf7R_oVaw]YouTube - ‪38 Special - Hold On Loosely‬‏[/ame]

 

[Phoenix]

“If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.”

 

[Big Black Dog]

If you eat three times today, tomorrow you will shit - at least once.

 

[Phoenix]

[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LXEKuttVRIo]YouTube - ‪Snuff‬‏[/ame]

Bury all your secrets in my skin
Come away with innocence, and leave me with my sins
The air around me still feels like a cage
And love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again...

So if you love me, let me go.
And run away before I know.
My heart is just too dark to care.
I can't destroy what isn't there.
Deliver me into my fate -
If I'm alone I cannot hate
I don't deserve to have you...
My smile was taken long ago
If I can change I hope I never know

I still press your letters to my lips
And cherish them in parts of me that savor every kiss
I couldn't face a life without your light
But all of that was ripped apart...
when you refused to fight

So save your breath, I will not hear.
I think I made it very clear.
You couldn't hate enough to love.
Is that supposed to be enough?
I only wish you weren't my friend.
Then I could hurt you in the end.
I never claimed to be a saint...
My own was banished long ago
It took the death of hope to let you go

So break yourself against my stones
And spit your pity in my soul
You never needed any help
You sold me out to save yourself
And I won't listen to your shame
You ran away - you're all the same
Angels lie to keep control...
My love was punished long ago
If you still care, don't ever let me know
If you still care, don't ever let me know...​

 

[sparky]

being consitently embarrassed to be a member of an insane race has repeatedly broken my irony meter , especially when meeting folks who claim thier needle never moves at all