You strike up the conversation and then the man has to ask ? Are we talking about a one night stand here or a marriage proposal ?
*sigh* We're talking about something in between. Companionship, dating, whatever you might want to call it - that will almost definitely get you some and for more than one night. And it's not just him who has to ask. That's my whole point. It's both parties' responsibility. Not just his, not just hers. But one can pretty effectively shut the other out by seeming disinterested whether that's the actual case or not - and that's when you have issues.
Well hell---if one shuts the other out it lights out-- end of story. You don't have to have issues for that to happen----maybe it just isnt what you wanted.
Yep. The whole point is, it can seem that way from the outside when it isn't necessarily what's intended. What was it Lumpy said earlier, feeling taken for granted is a love killer? That pretty much sums it up.
Which brings us back to the original point. Yep, you have to work for it. You just shouldn't be the only one working.