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Shame on you, SmartThanHick. Tossing out snide remarks, in an effort to win some crappy no-account argument on an internet message board? Do you realize just how offensive it is to write to someone you do not know, whose life experience is dramatically different than yours, that "they have abandonment issues"?
I have no such issues. I was born in a time when not every little thing became an issue, and into a place where getting food was somewhat more of a priority than getting psychoanalyzed. When I grew up, people who were not happy were not given some Life Long Pass to be assholes. It has been FIFTY YEARS, SmarterThanHick, and I assure you, I have had peace with what happened to me for at least FORTY of those years.
It seems more likely to me our differing POVs have to do with YOUR need to protect yourself from being taken advantage of by people who have not added to your welfare to date. But I am not especially covetious or defensive or suspicious of everyone else. I don't happen to see little old ladies I'm related to as likely to be leeches trying to suck every dime out of my bank account, cleverly wriggling into poverty just to deprive me of my assets. If someone in my neighborhood needs help and I can aid them, I do that as well. Sometimes I even give money to people I have no hope of EVER meeting.
This is how EVERYONE conducted themselves in the era immediately after WW II, except of course for my family. I gather nowadays, we're supposed to look after no one but ourselves and our own offspring and we're to ignore the suffering of our extended family, no matter how acute it may be.
Pardon me if I don't happen to see this newfangled POV as an improvement in The Human Condition. I still believe in compassion.
Even for long lost Aunties.
I have no such issues. I was born in a time when not every little thing became an issue, and into a place where getting food was somewhat more of a priority than getting psychoanalyzed. When I grew up, people who were not happy were not given some Life Long Pass to be assholes. It has been FIFTY YEARS, SmarterThanHick, and I assure you, I have had peace with what happened to me for at least FORTY of those years.
It seems more likely to me our differing POVs have to do with YOUR need to protect yourself from being taken advantage of by people who have not added to your welfare to date. But I am not especially covetious or defensive or suspicious of everyone else. I don't happen to see little old ladies I'm related to as likely to be leeches trying to suck every dime out of my bank account, cleverly wriggling into poverty just to deprive me of my assets. If someone in my neighborhood needs help and I can aid them, I do that as well. Sometimes I even give money to people I have no hope of EVER meeting.
This is how EVERYONE conducted themselves in the era immediately after WW II, except of course for my family. I gather nowadays, we're supposed to look after no one but ourselves and our own offspring and we're to ignore the suffering of our extended family, no matter how acute it may be.
Pardon me if I don't happen to see this newfangled POV as an improvement in The Human Condition. I still believe in compassion.
Even for long lost Aunties.