If You Had Controlling Parents [FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica] Con·trol·ling par·ent (ken-tröl'lîng pâr'ent): Adult or guardian who uses excessively perfectionistic, overbearing, authoritarian, confusing, narcissistic, or manipulative methods of childraising. An estimated 15 million American adults living today grew up with controlling parents. See also, lit.: The Great Santini, Mommie Dearest. [/FONT][FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica]As a wife, parental manipulation from either or both sides can potentially[/FONT] make marriage even more difficult than it is without. As a mother, though my children are quite young yet, I resent when people interfere with my methods of parenting but I consider their interference as something I potentially can use to learn from to better my future intentions. Is there ever a time that manipulative parenting is necessary in the adult years of the offspring's life? Sometimes, I have to admit it seems so... However, are there levels of parental manipulation that is more damaging to the offspring than productive? Biblically it is stated that we are to raise our children in the ways they are to go (as we would have them go?) and when they are older they would not depart from it... In some countries youths decide what field of study they wish to go and in and their education is based on that... Perhaps our American ways are more narcissistic than not, and perhaps any struggle we put up against controlling individuals and/or situations we only set ourselves up for a deeper/higher type of manipulation. What are the board's thoughts about this? Is manipulative parenting ever necessary? Is it ever logical? What seems most illogical to me, personally, would be blanket statements and laws that make generalized assumptions about the people in which they are suppose to serve. To completely prevent parental manipulation from a young adult's life could likely be more detrimental than not, yet there are some cases where that is not always the case. Manipulative parenting ultimately may represent parental insecurities and it may prove the manipulative parent to be distrustful of their children's judgment. Yet, it could also be the evidence of the higher love toward the offspring. At what 'age' or level of maturity do individuals become accountable for themselves and their own actions? Perhaps the age of accountability is all too often considered years of age instead of stages of maturity.