Is It OK to Deny Sex to your Spouse?

[Bonzi]

... is it ever OK to totally cut your spouse off from sex?
Is it even OK to say "no" more often than yes?
What if your spouse has a high sex drive and you don't.....

 

[HereWeGoAgain]

I can understand the occasional "I'm not in the mood" but if it goes on to long you're just asking to be cheated on.

 

[defcon4]

"Is It OK to Deny Sex to your Spouse?"
I don't know...is it?

 

[Spinster]

The only time I think it is okay is in the case of extenuating situations. For example, let's say you've been together for a long time, and over time one can develop debilitating illness making sex impossible or nearly so. That's the kind of thing in which I believe it might be warranted. Otherwise, if both parties are capable, each of you should be of the mind of pleasing the other. That's what love is supposed to be, not merely being self serving. I've known parties, however, that weren't all that interested in sex, and those relationships typically don't continue. There's a closeness, a bonding, when two people love each other and wants to satisfy their partner. When love is nonexistent, the act even tolerated, is without closeness and unity. It is simply relenting and getting the job over with. Should it get to that point, it's basically over for the two, and that's sad.

 

[rightwinger]

Depends on what you look like

 

[Bonzi]

"Is It OK to Deny Sex to your Spouse?"
I don't know...is it?

I will take that as a "it's never happened to me" response

 

[Pogo]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

 

[Bonzi]

Depends on what you look like

well why would you marry someone you didn't think looked good?

 

[Bonzi]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

what if you grow "disinterested" in sex, and no amount of counseling has helped?

 

[defcon4]

I will take that as a "it's never happened to me" response

You got it...

 

[Bonzi]

"Is It OK to Deny Sex to your Spouse?"
I don't know...is it?

I don't think it's OK especially if they ask nicely

 

[defcon4]

well why would you marry someone you didn't think looked good?

...the beauty is in the eyes of the beholder....good looks are relative then

 

[Bonzi]

I will take that as a "it's never happened to me" response

You got it...

... I'm conflicted about that response...

 

[Bonzi]

well why would you marry someone you didn't think looked good?

...the beauty is in the eyes of the beholder....good looks are relative then

well not to HIM apparently!

 

[MisterBeale]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

what if you grow "disinterested" in sex, and no amount of counseling has helped?

See a doctor or go to the mountain.

 

[defcon4]

I don't think it's OK especially if they ask nicely

That's what I think also..

 

[Pogo]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

what if you grow "disinterested" in sex, and no amount of counseling has helped?

I doubt that happens. That's a canary in the coal mine indicating something else is going on underneath.

 

[Bonzi]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

what if you grow "disinterested" in sex, and no amount of counseling has helped?

See a doctor or go to the mountain.

Go to the mountain? What does that do????

 

[Pogo]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

what if you grow "disinterested" in sex, and no amount of counseling has helped?

See a doctor or go to the mountain.

Don't call me "the mountain". I ain't a piece o' meat yanno.

 

[rightwinger]

Depends on what you look like

well why would you marry someone you didn't think looked good?

You are so shallow.....Because marriage is more than just looks

She might have money