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Incivility will continue if the proffered olive branch is turned into a stick to beat the other side with!
Which makes one question if the desire expressed to end the incivility is sincere or merely just another means to refuse to accept responsibility and berate others for daring to stand on principle after the umpteenth violation.
Such cuts both ways. When one side is expected to make ALL the concessions and accept ALL the responsibility at the demands of the other, there is no confidence that any olive branches are genuine. When one side continues to complain and stomp its feet and point fingers and accuse and blame and dig up old grievances while the other has moved on, is minding its own business, and enjoying their shared experiences together, it isn't too difficult to determine where the incivility lies.
Again none of us are perfect. We all have errors in judgment. It's pretty hard to get through life without a few stumbles and faux pas along the way. We can either choose to accept each other as imperfect human beings or we can behave as angry, spoiled brats demanding that everybody who offends us in any way be immediately reprimanded, or even destroyed.
In the end, civility is generally obtained via a good sense of what is really important.