masquerade
positivity
A male family member of mine is married to a woman who at one point was a lesbian. She had been for many many years until she met him. Now he and she are married and have two beautiful children.
my gay friends tell me they think homosexuality is a combination of nature and nurture... predisposition and environment... in much the same way as not everyone who smokes will get lung cancer.
as for your family member's wife, well, she's certainly bi-sexual. and you don't know what they have agreed upon in terms of their life. do you know if she has affairs with women while being married to him? do you know what their sex life is like? to be fair, there is also some research that for women there is *more* of a choice element than for men.
just because someone chooses to have a particular life outwardly doesn't mean that they are consistent with that internally. we know that many men live closeted lives and had wives and families.
the question is and always was, do you want to force people to live false lives for the comfort of those in society who hate them?
I tend to agree with what your gays friends told you.
You're right. I don't know what they have agreed upon as far as their relationship is concerned, nor do I want to know. That is their business, not mine. They are happy and good parents, doing a wonderful job at raising their children. Who the hell am I to judge their decisions in regards to their sexual preferences. Ha! Me of all people.
No sure if your last question is directed at me or anyone who happens into this thread, so answering for myself only ... no. I have no need to force anyone to live a false life for the comfort of those who hate them. I work with and am friends with many gays and lesbians. Do I get irritated with those who feel they constantly have to let people know they are gay? Yes, I do. Thankfully there is only a select few who feel the need.