Jarlaxle
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I wonder how many wives have a back up woman ready to go.
Is it still a "back-up" if her husband knows about it?
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I wonder how many wives have a back up woman ready to go.
The problem is that the break up usually results in financial ruin for the man.Life is short, why spend all that time figuring out women? Find one you like and settle down, it works or it doesn't.
If I were engaged to be married, I would 100% without any doubt have a prenuptial agreement drawn up. That will state each party gets what they came into the marriage with and all other marital assets are split based on the percentage of income earned by each spouse during the marriage.
I have seen too many guys bust their asses to build a nice home for their family and then some bloodsucking attorney gets a judge to allow the woman to take free and clear possession of the house and the guy has to suffer the indignity of paying for it.
I'm on marriage number two. Prenups are for hedgers, wrong attitude in my opinion.
Agreed. One should be "all in" in a marriage, or why bother?
Back up husband????? I love my husband and all but I'd never get married again. All my dreams "if the marriage doesn't work out" involve a winning lottery ticket for several million dollars and a palm tree on a white sandy beach complete with a lounge chair,book and a Pina colada.Funny. Women complain a lot about men who won't commit but once men get married it seems like it's women who have a problem staying committed - over 70% of divorces are initiated by women and now we find out that 50% already have a back-up husband in mind. Yowza!
According to a recent Mail survey of 1000 married ladies, half of all women have a backup husband in mind should their current one break during use. Or, you know, should the marriage not work out for whatever reason.
Some truly prepared wives may even have more than one backup in mind just in case. The survey also shows that a wife’s spousal-understudy is most likely to be either an ex or an old friend who has always had unrequited feelings for her. The most likely backup husband was a man the woman had known “for around seven years who will be ‘ready and waiting’ because of ‘unfinished business.’” Even more telling, around one in ten women said their backup was a man who had already “confessed his undying love,” while one in five women were confident the backup guy would “drop everything for her if she asked him too.”
Being prepared is one thing, but one in four women also reported having feelings for their backup man “as strong as they do for their other half.” That’s perhaps a step beyond prepared.
While living with a few necessary safeguards in place is always advisable, the concept of having a backup spouse in mind in case things don’t work out undermines your present relationship in more ways then one. The energy you spend keeping one eye on your plan b or obsessing over “what if” end of relationship scenarios is much better spent focusing on making your marriage work and keeping communication open and consistent. (The same goes for any guys with “backup wives,” too.) The concept of preparing for an imagined worst case takes you as far out of the present as possible. Living with a backup spouse in mind is like boarding a vacation cruise wearing a life jacket for the duration of the trip. It’s excessive behavior that grimly reminds you and those around you that there is a chance things may not go well.
Booze does that to a person, I'm afraid.My back up husband is Han Solo, but sadly he got too old.
My God went and seen Expendables 3 and Harrison Ford looked like he was 80 years old.
This is confusing. Did you mean to say that Your God went to see Expendables 3 and told you that Harrison is an Old Man now.... or were you expressing horror due to having seen Aged Harrison Ford in E-3 yourself?
The real crime was "seen" versus saw.
My God! I went to see Expendables 3 and Harrison Ford looked like he was 80 years old.
<grammer Nazi off>
Just looked - he's 72.
Maybe its because I'm 68 but I think he looks pretty good....
And don't feel bad for correcting "seen v saw". That's an example of poor grammar that is becoming more and more common and I just hate hearing it. Very weird to see it written though.
As if he'd have a say in it.Men should never allow their wives to associate with single or especially divorced women.Guys can't handle life alone. Women can and do
This is because men concentrate their emotional lives onto their wives while women have pretty broad networks of friends into which they can reach for emotional support. When a split happens, for women the loss of husband is simply the loss of one node in the emotional network whereas for men it's the whole network failing.
Another way to look at this is that men are more committed, they put all their emotional eggs into one basket.
The problem is that the break up usually results in financial ruin for the man.Life is short, why spend all that time figuring out women? Find one you like and settle down, it works or it doesn't.
If I were engaged to be married, I would 100% without any doubt have a prenuptial agreement drawn up. That will state each party gets what they came into the marriage with and all other marital assets are split based on the percentage of income earned by each spouse during the marriage.
I have seen too many guys bust their asses to build a nice home for their family and then some bloodsucking attorney gets a judge to allow the woman to take free and clear possession of the house and the guy has to suffer the indignity of paying for it.
I'm on marriage number two. Prenups are for hedgers, wrong attitude in my opinion.
Agreed. One should be "all in" in a marriage, or why bother?
Because it's like playing Russian Roulette with three in the cylinder. Any man who marries WITHOUT a prenup probably needs his head examined.
As if he'd have a say in it.Men should never allow their wives to associate with single or especially divorced women.Guys can't handle life alone. Women can and do
This is because men concentrate their emotional lives onto their wives while women have pretty broad networks of friends into which they can reach for emotional support. When a split happens, for women the loss of husband is simply the loss of one node in the emotional network whereas for men it's the whole network failing.
Another way to look at this is that men are more committed, they put all their emotional eggs into one basket.
The problem is that the break up usually results in financial ruin for the man.Life is short, why spend all that time figuring out women? Find one you like and settle down, it works or it doesn't.
If I were engaged to be married, I would 100% without any doubt have a prenuptial agreement drawn up. That will state each party gets what they came into the marriage with and all other marital assets are split based on the percentage of income earned by each spouse during the marriage.
I have seen too many guys bust their asses to build a nice home for their family and then some bloodsucking attorney gets a judge to allow the woman to take free and clear possession of the house and the guy has to suffer the indignity of paying for it.
I'm on marriage number two. Prenups are for hedgers, wrong attitude in my opinion.
Agreed. One should be "all in" in a marriage, or why bother?
Because it's like playing Russian Roulette with three in the cylinder. Any man who marries WITHOUT a prenup probably needs his head examined.
The problem is that the break up usually results in financial ruin for the man.Life is short, why spend all that time figuring out women? Find one you like and settle down, it works or it doesn't.
If I were engaged to be married, I would 100% without any doubt have a prenuptial agreement drawn up. That will state each party gets what they came into the marriage with and all other marital assets are split based on the percentage of income earned by each spouse during the marriage.
I have seen too many guys bust their asses to build a nice home for their family and then some bloodsucking attorney gets a judge to allow the woman to take free and clear possession of the house and the guy has to suffer the indignity of paying for it.
I'm on marriage number two. Prenups are for hedgers, wrong attitude in my opinion.
Agreed. One should be "all in" in a marriage, or why bother?
Because it's like playing Russian Roulette with three in the cylinder. Any man who marries WITHOUT a prenup probably needs his head examined.
You're assuming the man has more income and assets, which isn't always the case.
Who did they send their "mail survey" to... each other? What woman in her right mind would take the time to respond to a survey by mail that asks her personal questions about her fantasy life? This is crazy stuff.
Not always...UsuallyThe problem is that the break up usually results in financial ruin for the man.Life is short, why spend all that time figuring out women? Find one you like and settle down, it works or it doesn't.
If I were engaged to be married, I would 100% without any doubt have a prenuptial agreement drawn up. That will state each party gets what they came into the marriage with and all other marital assets are split based on the percentage of income earned by each spouse during the marriage.
I have seen too many guys bust their asses to build a nice home for their family and then some bloodsucking attorney gets a judge to allow the woman to take free and clear possession of the house and the guy has to suffer the indignity of paying for it.
I'm on marriage number two. Prenups are for hedgers, wrong attitude in my opinion.
Agreed. One should be "all in" in a marriage, or why bother?
Because it's like playing Russian Roulette with three in the cylinder. Any man who marries WITHOUT a prenup probably needs his head examined.
You're assuming the man has more income and assets, which isn't always the case.
all I would have to say is "if you hang out with those people, I will be disappointed."As if he'd have a say in it.Men should never allow their wives to associate with single or especially divorced women.Guys can't handle life alone. Women can and do
This is because men concentrate their emotional lives onto their wives while women have pretty broad networks of friends into which they can reach for emotional support. When a split happens, for women the loss of husband is simply the loss of one node in the emotional network whereas for men it's the whole network failing.
Another way to look at this is that men are more committed, they put all their emotional eggs into one basket.
Funny. Women complain a lot about men who won't commit but once men get married it seems like it's women who have a problem staying committed - over 70% of divorces are initiated by women and now we find out that 50% already have a back-up husband in mind. Yowza!
According to a recent Mail survey of 1000 married ladies, half of all women have a backup husband in mind should their current one break during use. Or, you know, should the marriage not work out for whatever reason.
Some truly prepared wives may even have more than one backup in mind just in case. The survey also shows that a wife’s spousal-understudy is most likely to be either an ex or an old friend who has always had unrequited feelings for her. The most likely backup husband was a man the woman had known “for around seven years who will be ‘ready and waiting’ because of ‘unfinished business.’” Even more telling, around one in ten women said their backup was a man who had already “confessed his undying love,” while one in five women were confident the backup guy would “drop everything for her if she asked him too.”
Being prepared is one thing, but one in four women also reported having feelings for their backup man “as strong as they do for their other half.” That’s perhaps a step beyond prepared.
While living with a few necessary safeguards in place is always advisable, the concept of having a backup spouse in mind in case things don’t work out undermines your present relationship in more ways then one. The energy you spend keeping one eye on your plan b or obsessing over “what if” end of relationship scenarios is much better spent focusing on making your marriage work and keeping communication open and consistent. (The same goes for any guys with “backup wives,” too.) The concept of preparing for an imagined worst case takes you as far out of the present as possible. Living with a backup spouse in mind is like boarding a vacation cruise wearing a life jacket for the duration of the trip. It’s excessive behavior that grimly reminds you and those around you that there is a chance things may not go well.
Harrison Ford is 72 yrs oldMy God went and seen Expendables 3 and Harrison Ford looked like he was 80 years old.My back up husband is Han Solo, but sadly he got too old.
That is SO true. And to make matters worse, men are expected to be able to read the mind of their wife/significant other.Women's expectations about relationships are generally unrealistic. Hence, the reason why over 70% of divorces are initiated by women.
Men want occasional sex and a companion.
If anyone knows what the average woman wants please clarify. There is no such animal.
No way......Divorced women tend to be angry and hate men. I see nothing good coming from an association between a married woman and her divorced friend(s)...Men should never allow their wives to associate with single or especially divorced women.Guys can't handle life alone. Women can and do
This is because men concentrate their emotional lives onto their wives while women have pretty broad networks of friends into which they can reach for emotional support. When a split happens, for women the loss of husband is simply the loss of one node in the emotional network whereas for men it's the whole network failing.
Another way to look at this is that men are more committed, they put all their emotional eggs into one basket.
Why?
Because the men want to get there first?