Ugly is a subjective term, destructive could be objectively discerned but my hatred of racists hasn't destroyed anything in my life or prevented me from being happy. I have nieces and nephews, my first grand son on the way, a woman I'm going to propose to, this year we've bought a house, I've bought a Tesla, we had a great few weeks in South Africa, I've had one of the best years of my life and I can enjoy all that and still hate racists and be perfectly zen. What's destructive is letting hate consume you. I don't have that problem, I let hate amuse me.