I've got the opposite problem, my conservative relatives sit around and discuss conservative politics saying all the things conservatives say about liberals (communist, out to destroy America, lazy good-for-nothings looking for a handout) when I am right there in the room. They totally lack tact, tease me for my politics and attack my retorts to their comments as if I have blasphemed against God and dishonored the family. I do not go home all that often.
Families are actually combinations of families. Each bringing their experiences and beliefs to the table. Some came from dirt poverty of the Depression and cling to the Democrats as salvation through FDR. Others benefited from the conservative 1950s achieving middle class status and see free markets and limited government as the best. I think that is why each side makes sense to someone. No one seems to accept the middle as a good place to be, so they press for more of whatever they champion. Being the minority in a family is often tough.
I think that there are plenty of us who are in the middle and it's a minority that are far left or far right.
It's the ones in politics and the news that are making us think that it's one side or the other.
There are much more registered independents than there is D's and R's.
We all have much more in common than we think we do.
What we are arguing over its how to achieve the goals that many of us want.