I would be hard-pressed to marry again, much less to a man with children in the home. The family dynamics would be a struggle unless I had been seeing the man for a year or more and understood and approved of his relationship with his children and his relationship with me and his children and their relationship with me. These marriages can work out but I wouldn't be a good candidate as a step-mom as I love living without a partner, period. I am "free to be"and never lonely. I am total and complete without baggage for the life I live and love. There is never anger and any stress just comes from work but because I am in a job I love, that stress is good stress. A stressful day generally means a successful day and makes for a great and satisfying evening. I was born to be independent but didn't always know it. I thought I was born to be "married with children." Someone asked me once if I ever got lonely and I answered them bluntly and honestly, "the only times I have ever been lonely is when I have been married."
The High Failure Rate of Second and Third Marriages
Excerpt: Ironically, the presence of children in second and third marriages, if they are from previous marriages, can cause problems and lead to tension. Having to adjust to your spouse's children and his/her relationship with them is often difficult for couples. Inevitably rivalries and arguments arise, making this a constant area of conflict. In these cases, the children can be a destabilizing factor in a second or third marriage.