I went to a public school that was not in my district. I went to a public school that was not in my state. I don't think it is that big of an issue.
Right in our progressive S.F. bay area you will find some very bad public schools where you and I would be very glad that we didn't have to attend.
You can be a real, "go getter" kid, but you won't learn much, because the classrooms are like zoos, where the teachers are just hired zoo keepers.
I'll name one, the East Palo Alto School District. Most new teachers or veterans will avoid trying for a job in that district if they can.
My Nephew, attempted to teach there as an Art Teacher. All he had to teach were little kids, from 3rd to 6th grade. Seem's like a job that wouldn't be that bad? Well, most of these kids didn't come from homes where the parents even cared whether their kid got an education or had a future in our society. Principals and teachers were just hired day care folks that tried to just keep kids seated. You want to teach them something? Well, if you can, you might have a minute percent of the kids that will respond, but the rest disrupt the classes so much that the ones that want to learn, don't.
Can you kick them out? Sure, but the district loses it's government moneys for every kid that isn't present. So you have this system that lives off the "Teats" of government to survive, yet it is only contributing to the dumbing-down of the children of a large geographic area.
Vouchers? A good idea, as this gives mobility to the parents to pick where they want their children to be taught. I think that the latter school district would go completey defunct, or would maybe lose 10-20% of their enrollment, as many of these economically disadvantaged families/parents would use those vouchers and get their kids into a school where the three R's are taught without hindrance.
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We have three grown, married sons. All three had some private school time in their earlier years. The oldest went into the public school system starting with his sophomore year of h.s.. The middle one started public school in his Freshman year of h.s.., and the youngest only received private school until the 4th grade and then entered public elementary school during the 5th grade.
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How did they do? Well, the oldest was hampered by numerous, serious physical problems, that caused him to miss school time while being in the hospital during H.S.. Never the less, he did graduate from H.S.. His grades were average. What's his life like now? He's married, has a 10 year old daughter and is about to adopt a 2 year old boy from the foster system. He/our son, has manual skill type jobs involving heavy, physical work. He's happy with his life, but wishes that he could do somethings over, such as school and be more serious about it. Hind sight is 20/20 you know.
Middle son, ended up at a H.S. that had what is called an open campus; meaning that students could come and go from the campus at will. For some students, this was no problem, for our middle son, this was a great opportunity to get into trouble and trouble he did. We made many trips to the dean's office, etc.. He eventually dropped out of H.S. in his Junior year. Did the school care? We did, but he didn't shine or stand out academically, so their loss wasn't a tear jerker. He his now a construction worker, and still doesn't have that H.S. diploma. He's married, and has a 4 year old son, and a 2 month old daughter. He and his wife are in a very strong marriage. Does he have regrets?........Oh, a basketful of them! Would he change things in the past and start over? In a heart beat! Can he right now? No. He's got to support and raise a family and stay committed to his wife. That's middle son's education right now. Learning to be a good dad, good husband, good provider, and just perservering.
Youngest son. When he left private school he was enrolled in a public school that was rated number 7 in California; number one being the best school. Did he do good? You bet. Classrooms were orderly, teachers were of high caliber and standards. Discipline was maintained, and parental support was unanimous. This school was just in an average middle class area of San Jose, Calif. This son went through middle school, H.S., State College, and is now in a medical/research Phd. program back East. He graduated Cum Laud from the State College, and was awarded full-ride scholarship to med school and research.
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What made the difference?
1. Not one child is a clone of another in the same family.
2. Every individual is endowed with a personality at birth, and along with that they must exercise some "will" in positive directions to achieve desired goals.
3. Parents must be supportive in a way that supports what the teachers are sending the kids home to do.
4. Parents need to continually be watchful that their "great" school follows good ethical standards, and is teaching with the aim of giving balance to their children's education/instruction. This may mean attending some school PTA, or board meetings to hold administrators accountable. Be ever watchful that your child's teacher is not politicizing the classroom in anyway. This is all-to common nowadays, as so many teachers are coming out of colleges that are very left-leaning progressive, and feel that it's a "duty" to set the children straight, despite parental influence.
5. If your child isn't doing good, get off your "butt" and talk to the school, i.e. their teacher or teacher's. Let the school know you as a concerned parent. Don't be a pest, but be pro-active in your kid's education if you see red flags in your estimation.
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Don't defend your kid when they are actually being naughty!!!! I can't say this enough. Accountability starts at home, not at school!!! If they get expelled, or suspended, and it's because of bad conduct, don't hide in humiliation as a parent/s! Face the facts, your kid or kids are being just the way chose to be. Endowed with free-will!
Now, you also must accept that you as a parent may have some responsibility in why your kid or kids have started faltering. Maybe you've been a model parent, yet your kid or kids haven't been model students. In fact maybe they have been "hell bent" on failing in every area academically and socially, in the school. That's a sad scenario, but it happens. You still have options, as parents. It's called, "tough love". It might mean just accepting what they/ your kid has done or is reaping as a result, and that's it. Parenting isn't easy. It doesn't mean beating them with "I told you so's", but be supportive in a way that teaches them to face the results of their decisions, yet gives them the "spark" inside to believe there is a possiblity to turn things around.
7. Again, there's only so much you, can do.
8. Schools in some areas of our country don't stand a chance, for most of the kids to prosper in a good environment. There just isn't that good learning environment. There will always be a few kids endowed with a measure of perserverance that makes us adults feel ashamed of our own lives. These kids will make it most likely.
9. What about the other kids that don't have that inner drive at a young age? Out of three sons, we had one, with that early, inner drive, the other two, just wanted to glide through school, and one just couldn't resist all kinds of temptations to leave the fold, and he paid dearly for it.
10. Actually most kids don't have goals, or that much inner drive when quite young. This drive can be "sparked" by a you or a teacher. I mean Teachers that actually enjoy what they are doing. They are well-paid, and have an actual interest in the future of those little "dough heads" that they have for 9 months.
11. Most kids just want someone/teacher, that is interested in them. Someone that points out and praises the few times they accomplish or even attempt to accomplish projects that are positive. One adult that praises one positive act in a child might be the one "jump start" in that kid's life that turns everything around.
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All three of my sons were of high I.Q.. I actually think that the one that went to med school might have been the one that had the lowest of the three.
What made the difference? Son number 3 had a pliable personality, was willing to learn, and seemed to have a inner desire to learn. The other two, had a personality that seemed to fight the system in one way or another, and in varying amounts of intensity.
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My Conclusion: Who's to blame?
Schools?
Parents?
Human Free will endowed in every child/student?
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Put that mix together, and you may or may not have a lottery winner.
Remove one of those three from the mix, and you have something that isn't complete.
Schools must try to not leave behind the "average" kid. Often the "average" is a kid with so much potential, that it's mind boggling.
Parents must be proactive in their kids lives. They must not get so involved in their own personal lives that they ignore this life that they have brought into the world. Parental support, via love, and discipline, are integral with the school's job. Accountability is taught at home, not in a jail cell.
Free-will: That's the mystery element to the equation. You can't do much about that. One personality or individual seems to want to achieve, another doesn't so much. In some ways thats where parents need to be ever watchful and be the first-front in encouragement, and wisdom dispensed.
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Public schools are not all equal, and in many cases are just darn-right impossible habitats for learning.
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Government money can't replace or fill in for missing, home grown/taught ethics and values.
Prepare your kids to "work" the sytem, so that the system doesn't give them a working-over, and spits them out.