When you are a white waitress or waiter it's very important that when you

[Pogo]

I tend to think people who smile too easily or broadly are up to no good.

I agree.

"Why"? Because if they're smiling when there's no apparent reason to do so -- it's fake.

You guys are very suspicious. Of course there is an apparent reason to do so. You are helping the person you smile at have a pleasant experience.

It really isn't 'suspicion' except of their motive.

As I said I'm interested in the real and detest the artificial. I'm really not interested in seeing the emotion that your employer decides you need to robotically represent; I want to see what you really feel. Because that, I can relate to. That other shit, that's just dehumanizing.

Sure, be pleasant, be courteous, be polite, but do it in your own character, not as a robot Barbie doll.
This particular waitress may not be a smiler. Cool with me; just be yourself. Communication takes place on many levels; smiling is but one.

To return to the beginning, seems to me the issue isn't with the waitress, but with the OP and his rigid my-way-or-the-highway expectations. He's gotta learn to flex. In a lot of things.

 

[Asclepias]

I tend to think people who smile too easily or broadly are up to no good.

I agree.

"Why"? Because if they're smiling when there's no apparent reason to do so -- it's fake.

You guys are very suspicious. Of course there is an apparent reason to do so. You are helping the person you smile at have a pleasant experience.

It really isn't 'suspicion' except of their motive.

As I said I'm interested in the real and detest the artificial. I'm really not interested in seeing the emotion that your employer decides you need to robotically represent; I want to see what you really feel. Because that, I can relate to. That other shit, that's just dehumanizing.

Sure, be pleasant, be courteous, be polite, but do it in your own character, not as a robot Barbie doll.
This particular waitress may not be a smiler. Cool with me; just be yourself. Communication takes place on many levels; smiling is but one.

To return to the beginning, seems to me the issue isn't with the waitress, but with the OP and his rigid my-way-or-the-highway expectations. He's gotta learn to flex. In a lot of things.

I think most adults are capable of discerning between a fake smile and a genuine one. A fake smile actually has the opposite effect. It makes people uneasy and suspicious. I am only speaking of genuine smiles. I can be having a crappy day but If I put aside my issues and focus on the person I can smile genuinely. Everyone has that ability. Its pure selfishness or laziness to allow your personal issues to effect your performance around others seeking to have a good time. Communication does take place on many levels however a smile is usually the very first and best thing a person can do to establish/maintain rapport. If you are not a smiler you should seek another profession instead of something dealing with the public where your tips may suffer.

 

[Pogo]

I tend to think people who smile too easily or broadly are up to no good.

I agree.

"Why"? Because if they're smiling when there's no apparent reason to do so -- it's fake.

You guys are very suspicious. Of course there is an apparent reason to do so. You are helping the person you smile at have a pleasant experience.

It really isn't 'suspicion' except of their motive.

As I said I'm interested in the real and detest the artificial. I'm really not interested in seeing the emotion that your employer decides you need to robotically represent; I want to see what you really feel. Because that, I can relate to. That other shit, that's just dehumanizing.

Sure, be pleasant, be courteous, be polite, but do it in your own character, not as a robot Barbie doll.
This particular waitress may not be a smiler. Cool with me; just be yourself. Communication takes place on many levels; smiling is but one.

To return to the beginning, seems to me the issue isn't with the waitress, but with the OP and his rigid my-way-or-the-highway expectations. He's gotta learn to flex. In a lot of things.

I think most adults are capable of discerning between a fake smile and a genuine one. A fake smile actually has the opposite effect. It makes people uneasy and suspicious. I am only speaking of genuine smiles. I can be having a crappy day but If I put aside my issues and focus on the person I can smile genuinely. Everyone has that ability. Its pure selfishness or laziness to allow your personal issues to effect your performance around others seeking to have a good time. Communication does take place on many levels however a smile is usually the very first and best thing a person can do to establish/maintain rapport. If you are not a smiler you should seek another profession instead of something dealing with the public where your tips may suffer.

Yeah I was indeed speaking of fake versus genuine-- I simply as usual took way too many words to say it.

However I'm not convinced everyone has that ability. I don't. What you see is what I got.
And while I'm not a waiter or service person, it wouldn't be fair to deny or impinge my employment as such (or my tips) on the basis of the artificial expectations of a third party.

And again to return to and deconstruct the OP, his point was "show all your teeth or it indicates racism". Well, no it doesn't indicate anything about race at all -- he's plugging that in. It's another case of projecting his own issue onto somebody else and then blaming them for what he just got done laying on them.

 

[Hossfly]

Won't take a year. My wife was in the restaurant business for forty years and I helped a lot so I've seen it all. We never had any problems except for people trying to steal candle holders. But we stopped them with a big grin.

You do realize that not being the customer and Black pretty much makes your post irrelevant in regards to the point right?

To tell you the truth, I've never seen happen what the OP claims.

I've never seen you witness what the OP claims. Does that mean it didnt happen?

Sure it could happen. What's the odds? As I said, if it did happen, chances are it was the doings of the OP.

The odds are pretty even if you are Black. I cant figure out why you think its the same as being a white customer.

Depends on where you live. I live in the South and people get along better down here than in the North.

 

[Asclepias]

You do realize that not being the customer and Black pretty much makes your post irrelevant in regards to the point right?

To tell you the truth, I've never seen happen what the OP claims.

I've never seen you witness what the OP claims. Does that mean it didnt happen?

Sure it could happen. What's the odds? As I said, if it did happen, chances are it was the doings of the OP.

The odds are pretty even if you are Black. I cant figure out why you think its the same as being a white customer.

Depends on where you live. I live in the South and people get along better down here than in the North.

Bullshit. My family is from the south. People in the south just dont go where they are not wanted. Its an unspoken agreement.

 

[Hossfly]

To tell you the truth, I've never seen happen what the OP claims.

I've never seen you witness what the OP claims. Does that mean it didnt happen?

Sure it could happen. What's the odds? As I said, if it did happen, chances are it was the doings of the OP.

The odds are pretty even if you are Black. I cant figure out why you think its the same as being a white customer.

Depends on where you live. I live in the South and people get along better down here than in the North.

Bullshit. My family is from the south. People in the south just dont go where they are not wanted. Its an unspoken agreement.

Depends on what part of the South you're in. I don't have any problems and get along with everyone who is worth it.

 

[Asclepias]

I've never seen you witness what the OP claims. Does that mean it didnt happen?

Sure it could happen. What's the odds? As I said, if it did happen, chances are it was the doings of the OP.

The odds are pretty even if you are Black. I cant figure out why you think its the same as being a white customer.

Depends on where you live. I live in the South and people get along better down here than in the North.

Bullshit. My family is from the south. People in the south just dont go where they are not wanted. Its an unspoken agreement.

Depends on what part of the South you're in. I don't have any problems and get along with everyone who is worth it.

I've been all over the south. Its the same way everywhere I have been. Well youre white and you used the qualifier "worth it". I am talking about Black people who you may not feel are "worth it".

 

[Hossfly]

Sure it could happen. What's the odds? As I said, if it did happen, chances are it was the doings of the OP.

The odds are pretty even if you are Black. I cant figure out why you think its the same as being a white customer.

Depends on where you live. I live in the South and people get along better down here than in the North.

Bullshit. My family is from the south. People in the south just dont go where they are not wanted. Its an unspoken agreement.

Depends on what part of the South you're in. I don't have any problems and get along with everyone who is worth it.

I've been all over the south. Its the same way everywhere I have been. Well youre white and you used the qualifier "worth it". I am talking about Black people who you may not feel are "worth it".

Well, I have no use for trailer trash crackers, who ain't worth it. I should have qualified that statement.

 

[fbj]

Any waitress/waiter should smile when serving people. I have to admit that if they dont smile and they are white the first thing that comes to mind is that they are a racist/bigot. Usually I can get them to smile and talk about themselves. If they never thaw out I assume they are racist.

Then you're employing a fallacy, because you don't have a basis for that conclusion. They could be tired, bored, having a shitty day, or just not a smiley type. Some of that might be unfriendliness too, but their white customers are gonna get the same thing, so there goes that theory.

But "show ALL your teeth", SMFH. I've sat down to a lot of meals in a lot of restaurants in almost all 57 states, and it's never once occurred to me to count somebody's teeth. Ever.

I need to see smiles

 

[fbj]

Maybe it was just you she had an issue with. You're not deformed or something, are you?

I wasn't the only one at the table you silly fool you

 

[fbj]

Any waitress/waiter should smile when serving people. I have to admit that if they dont smile and they are white the first thing that comes to mind is that they are a racist/bigot. Usually I can get them to smile and talk about themselves. If they never thaw out I assume they are racist.

Maybe the waitress just had a death in the family. Who gives a rat's patootie if the waitress doesn't come on shuckin' 'n jivin'?

Well she should have called the fuck out

 

[Procrustes Stretched]

are serving a black table...

you need to get a more challenging and rewarding hobby

 

[bodecea]

Maybe you could be less sensitive and not presume Racism.

Any black person who encounters a unpleasant looking white waitress will always assume racism.

sorry

Did you cry?

 

[Hossfly]

Any waitress/waiter should smile when serving people. I have to admit that if they dont smile and they are white the first thing that comes to mind is that they are a racist/bigot. Usually I can get them to smile and talk about themselves. If they never thaw out I assume they are racist.

Then you're employing a fallacy, because you don't have a basis for that conclusion. They could be tired, bored, having a shitty day, or just not a smiley type. Some of that might be unfriendliness too, but their white customers are gonna get the same thing, so there goes that theory.

But "show ALL your teeth", SMFH. I've sat down to a lot of meals in a lot of restaurants in almost all 57 states, and it's never once occurred to me to count somebody's teeth. Ever.

I need to see smiles

Jebus, why didn't you say that at the beginning of your sob story. Here's a big ol' shit eatin' grin fer ya.

 

[Unkotare]

Maybe you could be less sensitive and not presume Racism.

Any black person who encounters a unpleasant looking white waitress will always assume racism.

sorry

You have serious personal issues.

 

[Unkotare]

Maybe you could be less sensitive and not presume Racism.

Any black person who encounters a unpleasant looking white waitress will always assume racism.

sorry

Reading your posts one can only assume you need some serious mental health counseling

I'm speaking the truth

You're crying for help, but nobody cares.

 

[Asclepias]

The odds are pretty even if you are Black. I cant figure out why you think its the same as being a white customer.

Depends on where you live. I live in the South and people get along better down here than in the North.

Bullshit. My family is from the south. People in the south just dont go where they are not wanted. Its an unspoken agreement.

Depends on what part of the South you're in. I don't have any problems and get along with everyone who is worth it.

I've been all over the south. Its the same way everywhere I have been. Well youre white and you used the qualifier "worth it". I am talking about Black people who you may not feel are "worth it".

Well, I have no use for trailer trash crackers, who ain't worth it. I should have qualified that statement.

I thought you were a trailer trash cracker? Isnt that a picture of you in your avatar?

 

[fbj]

Maybe you could be less sensitive and not presume Racism.

Any black person who encounters a unpleasant looking white waitress will always assume racism.

sorry

Did you cry?

No I just started treating her like shit

 

[fbj]

Any waitress/waiter should smile when serving people. I have to admit that if they dont smile and they are white the first thing that comes to mind is that they are a racist/bigot. Usually I can get them to smile and talk about themselves. If they never thaw out I assume they are racist.

Then you're employing a fallacy, because you don't have a basis for that conclusion. They could be tired, bored, having a shitty day, or just not a smiley type. Some of that might be unfriendliness too, but their white customers are gonna get the same thing, so there goes that theory.

But "show ALL your teeth", SMFH. I've sat down to a lot of meals in a lot of restaurants in almost all 57 states, and it's never once occurred to me to count somebody's teeth. Ever.

I need to see smiles

Jebus, why didn't you say that at the beginning of your sob story. Here's a big ol' shit eatin' grin fer ya.

Reported

 

[bodecea]

Maybe you could be less sensitive and not presume Racism.

Any black person who encounters a unpleasant looking white waitress will always assume racism.

sorry

Did you cry?

No I just started treating her like shit

You DID cry didn't you? Devastated by a waitress not smiling at you. Such a fragile momma's boy.