Ok, since Bonzi likes blunt honesty...I'll spell out what I think. Again, it is not judging thing but still...informative in a nosey way.
Defcon and Bonzi are "not yet ready" to "commit". Defcon is ready. Bonzi is not because she is not really that attracted to him him and doesn't know how to end what she started, hence the thread. And this has been going on for some time now, ever since she first began flirting with him and he responded, then left for a couple of months but is now back for whatever reason. Maybe more lures because Bonzi needs what he is willing to give but only after he figures out how to go about it without hurting his other half whereas Bonzi wants away from her other half but is afraid to the take the plunge because the unhappy known is better than the possible unhappy unknown with someone she is not really attracted to. And needs advice. So this thread came into being.
She is not attracted to him like he is to her, but she wants to keep him on her leash because she is lonely. However, he has more to lose than she does since he said himself he would not want to betray his wife and children in such a matter. Which is in itself a contradiction of what Bonzi says in other topics. Which means "I don't want him, but I want him to think I want him so I can have a playtoy".
So...Ms Blunt I Am Honest.....amirite?
