I'm not a democrat but I am firm in believing a woman has a right to choose what happens to her own body.
I think where the GOP misses the boat in this argument is, as with all things, you guys demand absolute adherence to one side of an argument or another. This is why you have lost five of the last six popular votes. You make it very difficult to follow since anyone who is honest knows the world is full of gray areas and conditional reactions to problems.
I see the word "only" up there. Women do not "only" care about birth control and abortion. Its a bullshit argument you guys keep spouting off and, to nobody's surprise, you continue to lose the women's vote time and again.
Exhibit A:
Keep in mind, he didn't win all of those states; it wasn't as if he was just piling on to his margins in New York and California.
Anyway, Women care about much more than abortion and birth control. But for most women who think for themselves; the issues are gateway issues. If you had a guy running on the republican ticket that was 100% in lockstep with the national platform committee, endorsed everything they had in the document and had all of the other intangibles about appearance, charm, charisma, etc... but was agnostic or an atheist...he would get nearly zero support. Why? Because for most GOP voters, being a good Christian is held in great importance.
Women aren't going to care about your plans for deficit reduction or foreign policy if you're not supportive of them making their own healthcare decisions. It's as simple as that.
I know this doesn't fit into the simplistic, cartoonish cookie-cutter world of make believe that the GOP lives in...so your candidates do not get the women's vote in the general election.