Ekrem--
Did you really expect to get help understanding women from American Islamophobes?
All they're interested in is scorn, ridicule and contempt.
I don't see where I seek "help".
At that time, when I opened the thread, I had a date and it was a time - just like know - where I was frequently in the internet and was talkative and I opened a thread about what's happening in my life.
I do not date that specific woman anymore.
I also have no problem talking to women. Later in the thread, I described how I like a woman based on her looks. The place where I was shopping at that time was a small family grocery-shop, and obviously the woman was the daughter/sister to the people in that grocery-shop.
I thought if I shall talk to her for a date or something like that. I didn't. But I would have if I met her somewhere outside her working-hour - away from her father and brothers.
Out of this "syrenn" makes a "ekrem can not talk to women"-thingy. Whatever, by now I don't really give a **** what she has to say.
My current girlfriend/woman is in holiday with her family. Neither did my mother introduced me to her nor someone else. I know her from studying time and we met coincidentally - and continued to meet.
I don't lover her, but I like her. Maybe I'll begin to love her and if that's the case I'll make her a marriage offer. But for such thinking it is too early.
The other thing what "syrenn" babbles about is my mother.
If I would say to my mother, that she shall find me a woman to marry, my mother will find me a woman. That's easy - my mother will give my photograph or Facebook-Link to her friends and those friends will spread the "news" to their friends and so on.
After 2 weeks a family who has a single daughter and whose daughter
wants to marry will call my mother and there will be a "tea-drinking"-meeting arranged.
Then we go tea-drinking, and me and the daughter of that family leave house and talk privately.
After we return to house, both sides of family want to hear whether "meet again" or "don't meet again". If "meet again", then we meet without families from now on.
That's how it is mostly done in Turkish families.
So far I resisted that practice, because once family is involved, it is not really easy to divorce that woman later. Mother will make "Why, try further, make sacrifices"-thingy.
I want to have all options in my hand.