MarcATL I find that that cycles of abuse, whether drug/alcohol or the sexual addictions that
even Catholic communities suffered and hid from,
are caused by SPIRITUAL obstructions and addictions.
And these are cured by GENERATIONAL therapy, similar to the
healing methods of recovery that whole tribes have to go through
to overcome genocide in their histories that affect future generations.
This is very deep, and it is NOT CAUSED merely by superficial circumstances.
In fact, I'd say that the social factors and environment are part of the spiritual manifestation.
The spiritual process is the determining factor, and all the other environmental factors
from Nature to Nurture FOLLOW and reflect that spiritual process. This is a healing process, like the
stages of grief leading to full recovery in the future,
but until the cycle is broken, the patterns from the past REPEAT and remanifest in next generations.
The real factors to look for to understand the stages of this spiritual development is
* forgiveness
* unforgiveness
That's how you determine which STAGE of grief or recovery someone is in.
If they are still angry and resentful, projecting blame "outside themselves"
(as even Tucker Carlson is talking about blaming "outside factors" instead of
looking at the internal mechanisms and process that is running independent of what
this looks like on the outside)
or if they are depressed, despondent, and feeling as a "hopeless victim of others"
(which again Carlson mentions as the men who feel demasculated and turn
to substance addiction as an escape).
These are different STAGES of dealing with past patterns that are repeating.
None of these STAGES are the defining problem or solution.
They are each part of a PROCESS to overcome. So that's what we
need to focus on, is understanding the shape and steps of the recovery process.
We can better walk each other through these steps if we don't get stuck on any one
and try to blame or "generalize" based on that one angle.
The point is to FINISH the process and reach full spiritual maturity and understanding.
Not blame people for the past or where we are in our recovery which is a necessary stage
to overcome and grow to the next level of development.
The better we understand why the stages MANIFEST through anger, or depression and numbness,
we can better work through this, and make the process for us,
instead of fighting against the process.