Dear
impuretrash
The common factor found in all cases of criminal disorder and abuse
is "blaming external causes or other people" instead of taking personal
responsibility and steps to fix internal problems first.
Likewise the common factor in all successful rehab and recovery programs
to overcome abuse, addiction and other imbalanced behavior or relations
is TAKING and focusing on personal steps that empower each person to change.
This is independent of race, gender, religion, and class.
People of both rich and poor classes and backgrounds,
white black latino and asian and native american,
both men and women and their family members
who have gone through abuse addiction and recovery
ALL have benefited from and seen the difference in these steps.
The human conscience works the same to overcome
past patterns that make people feel like helpless victims,
and move toward empowerment by valuing one's own actions as necessary steps.
When people get stuck, they can't get past something and
either blame or feel helpless about changing.
The key I've found in all successful recovery,
whether the problem was internal or externally caused,
is forgiveness, in order to free one's mind to
receive enough positive energy flow to keep moving forward.
Where people can't forgive the injustices problems or conflicts of the past,
that's where the human mind gets stuck and can't work on solving
problems in a constructive effective manner. Sometimes we NEED to hold on to anger
or sad thoughts, to serve as a protective barrier or scab on a wound, to push others away so we can keep from reinjuring the same wound over and over. But if a broken bone gets infected, the scab or bandage can't cover that up. the wound has to be cleaned out to remove the infection first. So covering up wounds by projecting blame on others isn't the solution either.
Forgiveness lets us reopen old wounds and clean out any bacteria or infections
that have abscessed. Yes, we're afraid it's going to hurt, but that wound needs to heal.
And it can't if it keeps getting infected over and over. Blaming others may keep the pressure off
the wound so it hurts less, but there is no shortcut to cleaning it and closing it properly.
The best part about forgiveness and the healing of mind body
and relations that comes with it, is this empowering energy
INFLUENCES other people to overcome fear and take on change.
We all get stuck when we fear and can't forgive things that hurt us and others
we identify with. The successful empowerment and recovery process
common to all approaches I've looked at involve forgiveness and letting go
so that we can take the necessary steps and compel the changes
needed to solve the current problems and prevent them in the future.
We know we are doing things right when we rebuild relations
and attract more and more support to overcome obstacles.
If too much energy is wasted on negative patterns, of repeating
and reinforcing negative thinking and tearing down others instead
of building each other up, that goes against the recovery process of change.
People of all races, cultures and identity have their battles and
journey to go through. When we see we are fighting the same process
but on different fronts, we can see our suffering is universal and also
the victory when we beat the curve and come out as better stronger people for it.
We may feel alone, but we are all in this battle together.
Overcoming the fear is the hardest part, it gets easier after that.
And we build momentum the more we find allies going through
similar, each with our own unique path and story, but similar stages.
As the song says, we shall overcome. WE. All humanity.
Nobody is unaffected or untouched. As Malcolm X said
until all of us are fed, all of us are hungry. Until all of us are free, none of us is free.
