Hi [MENTION=49463]PoliticalTorch[/MENTION]
Currently the govt/state is already forcing certain definitions or terms of marriage.
The only way around that is (a) to remove it from the state and only recognize it through
churches or locally through people on a private level, or (b) totally NEUTRALIZE the language
unless (c) you can actually get people to AGREE how to interpret the laws as written so they can both get what they want out of them (like how the 2nd Amendment is interpreted two opposite ways)
So, of course, if the traditional laws established through the state enforce and impose certain TERMS of marriage, then when this language is changed to ADD SAME SEX PARTNERS then it is imposing on the public also.
1. Now, if the language were COMPLETELY NEUTRAL and did not mention ANYTHING about "man, woman or gender or same sex", then NEITHER gay or straight marriage would be forced, endorsed, restricted or banned "by the state" or govt laws. it COULD be completely neutralized so there is no imposition EITHER WAY.
But even using the word "marriage" brings up religious issues, so that word would have to be substituted to prevent imposing or invoking religious beliefs and biases.
2. as long as there is ANY mention of gender or same-sex, then the state is endorsing one way over another. So the govt is effectively FORCING marriage to be recognized that way
(NOTE I only heard of one state that made "same sex marriage legal" while the state DIDN'T endorse it or enforce it -- so this is possible if people write the laws by consensus.
Another court ruling pointed out the problem was using the same term "marriage" in two different contexts of church and state, so this is causing confusion and conflict.)
If you want NO GOVT endorsing or forcing it
then either REMOVE marriage and its definitions from laws (and keep this private
to the churches or people to DEFINE for themselves)
or make all the language NEUTRAL where it does not specify man/woman/gender (and may even require replacing the term "marriage" with civil contracts to prevent endorsement or perceived enforcement of religious practices or concepts to avoid ANY religious biases)
Last note: if even putting a CROSS on public property counts as "imposing a religious bias" against people of other beliefs, certainly using the religious term "marriage" can be argued the same way and removed from state laws because of religious beliefs attached to it.
if the people in each state cannot agree any other way, then remove the terms and quit fighting over them religiously, and quit abusing govt to redefine religious terms. Some people cannot separate church from state, or marriage from the context of church. Like the Atheists who cannot stand crosses in public and "cannot change their interpretation to see it as a "secular symbol of RIP over a grave," keep marriage private also if that works best.
What's really unfortunate is that same sex marriage has been forced on an unwilling public ANYWHERE. What is a medical travesty is not recognizing that some men were led into homosexual lifestyles early and now recognize that they are not homosexual at all and need to be integrated into being a whole and heterosexual person.
Same-sex marriage has not been "forced" on an unwilling public. Citizens who are Gay or Lesbian and who work, pay their taxes, raise children or adopt them, who attend church and who vote just like you do, are simply asking for Equal rights, not "special" rights. They simply want what everyone else has and those citizens deserve that much. And they are open about it just as Blacks had to be open about obtaining their civil rights in the Fifties and early Sixties and why they refused to sit at the back of the bus and took to the streets in demonstrations. Had they not been so open they still would not have received their civil rights. The same with Gays. They have to be open about it but only because society, in effect, has been the one that has forced them to be so open by not being more reasonable such as to grant them their civil and human rights to be who they are without their having to demonstrate so openly in order to call attention to this important matter for them.
As to men being 'led' into a homosexual lifestyle early in life, that is a gross misconception. Those who are supposedly 'led' are either ready to express a part of themselves that had been repressed for a period of time or are willfully wanting to 'experiment' with a different lifestyle. Those men who feel they were 'led' to a homosexual lifestyle may have been willing participants in the beginning but if they were truly heterosexuals that is, Straight, to begin with then that is the reason they find afterward that they are not homosexual at all, as you put it. And that is why I do not believe there are people who say they were led to homosexuality and have now "miraculously" been led out of it into a straight heterosexual lifestyle. They were obviously not Gay to being with. They tried something different but since that was not the true sexual orientation they were born with they simply reverted back to who they truly are. That can only exemplify the fact that people are born either Gay or Straight. If they are Straight, it would be very difficult to think they could be 'forced' into becoming Gay. Conversely, if they were born Gay it would be even more difficult to force them to become Straight, something they were not born as. That is why this so-called Gay Conversion Therapy is being blasted and lambasted by medical professionals. Because you cannot change a person's sexual orientation through such dangerous "therapy" any more than you can change the color of a person's skin that they were born with through therapy. Let me ask you this. Do you think a person who is completely Straight and Heterosexual should be 'forced' to undergo Conversion therapy to become Gay? I think not.
That is why it is so ludicrous to think that one can change a Gay person into something they are not such as Straight. It simply does not work that way. Those who may say they were changed were obviously not Gay to begin with. End of story.
Yes, the point of healing therapy is for people to be reconciled and at peace with whatever they naturally are. this works with people recovering from abuse or addictions that are not natural, where they restore their original state of mind and health.
I have a friend who was healed spiritually and came out AFTERWARDS as transgender;
two friends who got rid of transgender or bisexual feelings after healing therapy;
and two friends who overcome heterosexual addictions as they went through recovery.
If people change their sexual behavior by this same healing process used for recovery from abuse and addiction, THAT is the type of therapy that works effectively by choice not force.
There is nothing wrong with this, there are wide variations of such therapy, all based on forgiveness in order to heal and recover, and documented success stories are widespread.