Your so dumb, you would build a grocery store in a black neighborhood."You are using racism to blame whites for your failures."
The ranks right up there with the earth is flat in the hall of fame of dumb ass comments. Oprah Winfrey is by no means a failure, yet she will tell you about racism.
9 clueless things white people say when confronted with racism
1) āYouāre racist for making this an issue of race.ā
More often than not, when a person of color brings up racism, chances are thereās something problematic happening. Itād be naive to assume that people of color simply exist as opportunists who pounce on any single chance to make a big deal about racism. If youāre tired of hearing about racism, how tired do you think people of color are from having to live surrounded by racism in the first place?
2) āI donāt see race. I only see the human race.ā
While this may sound revolutionary, so-called color-blindness is actually part of the problem. Not āseeing raceā is simply a lazy coded phrase for deliberately ignoring the lingering elements of racism that actually need to be fixed and reinforces the privilege of being able to bypass the negative effects of racism in the first place. As the saying goes, āYou canāt erase what you cannot face.ā
3) āTalking about issues in terms of āwhite peopleā and āwhite privilegeā is reverse racism.ā
About that reverse racism thingā¦ it doesnāt exist. Itās no secret that it is humanly possible for a person of color to be prejudiced against whites. Sometimes, itās an attitude that develops over time because their experience with racism has drawn them to the conclusion that no āgoodā white people exist in the world. And although thereās a lot of healing that needs to happen in that much more seldom instance of prejudice, the attitude itself doesnāt come with an entire system of benefits and institutional power that being white affords in America. Thatās the difference between racism and prejudice, because racism at its root is about supremacy.
4) āYou [person of color] clearly donāt know what racism is. According to Websterās Dictionaryā¦ā
Donāt do it. Step away from this infantilizing situation to avoid being a white person dictating how racism works to a person of color, despite their actual lived experiences with it. As for how Websterās and other dictionaries defines the issue? The oversimplification is a topic that merits an entire thesis.
5) āYou [person of color] said something about white people doing racist things, so I demand you explain this to me right now.ā
People of color are not on-demand racial justice educators, especially if they have no relationship or affinity with someone seeking the knowledge. In the age of the Internet, if you donāt know someone from a particular community you can speak with, you can likely find those voices on blogs, on Twitter, or even in columns and news articles, talking about the very things youāre seeking to understand. Instead of taxing the already tapped reserves of people of color when dealing with racism, try self-educating before knocking on someoneās door.
6) āBut my [person of color] friend said it was OK if I did it [racially problematic thing].ā
Still, itās not the best idea to apply that relational dynamic with one friend to an entire group of people, many of whom have a different relationship with certain words, phrases or actions. Would you touch the hair of a black female stranger just because your black female friend allows you to touch hers?
7) āStop attacking me for having privileges just because Iām white. Itās racist and hurtful.ā
When people critique racism and white privilege in America, theyāre speaking generally about a system and not the individual. Unless, that is, an individual instance merits the person being held accountable for their actions (i.e. Donald Sterling, Paula Deen, Iggy Azalea).
8) āIām sick of pretending that [people of color] need special rights and programs just because they arenāt white. We have problems too, you know.ā
To have problems in life is an inherent part of the human condition. But it takes humility, grace and empathy to take the time and space for reflection and self-examination to truly understand that some of us have it much better than othersādespite our often half-hearted efforts to ensure equal opportunities for everyone, especially blacks and people of color. Yes, whites can be poor, or female, or LGBT, or immigrants, or have white skin but actually be multi-ethnic, the list goes on. Thatās why intersectionality matters, and it includes an interrogation of racial privilege.
9) [Insert tear-filled expression of white privilege guilt or denial here.]
First, itās okay to have emotions and to feel genuinely remorseful when itās clear that a cruelly reprehensible system has been perpetuated in a word or an action. Emotional policing isnāt cool, and people of color know it all too well. However, more often than not, when the tears flow, they correlate with an outright rejection of the idea that whiteness in America is privileged and normalized in virtually every social and institutional structure. In this instance, instead of centering the many, intensely hurtful experiences of people of color, the person has derailed the conversation and made it completely about them.
It not only shifts accountability in a way thatās been historically dangerous, it also reinforces the very privilege being interrogated: Because these white tears and white feelings are often prioritized above the lived struggles of non-white people.
9 clueless things white people say when confronted with racism
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