Such therapy is potentially problematic, but I still can't see it as inherently "abusive." What bothers me most about hardliners is that they view human life in absolutes. It's either a) all people are born straight and society is making them gay or b) you are born gay or straight and nobody makes those choices.
Bullshit. It's neither.
There is such a thing called genetic predisposition. To deny it is just plain ignorant. It is no less ignorant to refuse to acknowledge that sexual behavior can be conditioned. The psychological community can identify that adult sexual behaviors can be and frequently are affected by childhood experiences. Yet, the subject of homosexuality has somehow become taboo. As a sexual preference or behavior it is off the table for discussion when it comes to that. Why?
I have three children. If one day any one of them told me they were gay, I would not disown them, nor would they become any less in my eyes. However, all things being equal, I would prefer they be straight. I would also prefer they have healthy diets, not be serial rapists, be productive, think critically, and a number of other things that they may or may not do.
Being socially withdrawn is a trait of autism. If I had a child with autism, do I NOT encourage or attempt to condition more social behavior so that he/she can assimilate and function better? Or am I supposed to just let the behavior be because that's "just the way he/she is?"
The example is not meant to say that gays cannot assimilate or function, so don't get antsy. My point is that people are born all kinds of ways, with certain genetic predispositions, and sometimes behaviors are simply conditioned or chosen. In other words, in the multiple choice question of the real world, it's "all of the above." Sometimes people are overweight because of their lifestyle, and sometimes it's because they are genetically predisposed. My point is, why is sexual orientation the only behavior that cannot be discussed among the myriad of behaviors that can be positive/negative, beneficial/harmful, etc.?
There was a time when society completely shunned such behavior and people were far more expected to conform to social norms. If there are genetically predisposed gays now there were then, right? Were they all living miserable lies their whole lives? I don't know any more than anybody else does. I find it hard to believe that at least some of them didn't lead reasonably happy lives, even if there was something "off" that they couldn't quite put their hands on. People live lives they don't necessarily want all the time. People work jobs they hate and are not "fulfilled." Not everybody is able to live their life they way the feel. Likewise, parents try to "force" their children in certain directions all the time, and have done so for thousands of years, and sometimes there are scars. Grow up and welcome to the world.
Do we want to try and prevent abuse by parents? Of course we do. That doesn't make this kind of therapy inherently abusive.
Despite my rant, I am actually very sensitive and tolerant. Anyway, the far lefties can go ahead and give me their ration of shit now.