Right Speech

Dhara

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Imagine having to live up to this one....

"It is spoken at the right time. It is spoken in truth. It is spoken affectionately. It is spoken beneficially. It is spoken with a mind of good-will."

"There is the case where a certain person, abandoning false speech, abstains from false speech. When he has been called to a town meeting, a group meeting, a gathering of his relatives, his guild, or of the royalty, if he is asked as a witness, 'Come & tell, good man, what you know': If he doesn't know, he says, 'I don't know.' If he does know, he says, 'I know.' If he hasn't seen, he says, 'I haven't seen.' If he has seen, he says, 'I have seen.' Thus he doesn't consciously tell a lie for his own sake, for the sake of another, or for the sake of any reward. Abandoning false speech, he abstains from false speech. He speaks the truth, holds to the truth, is firm, reliable, no deceiver of the world.

"Abandoning divisive speech he abstains from divisive speech. What he has heard here he does not tell there to break those people apart from these people here. What he has heard there he does not tell here to break these people apart from those people there. Thus reconciling those who have broken apart or cementing those who are united, he loves concord, delights in concord, enjoys concord, speaks things that create concord.

"Abandoning abusive speech, he abstains from abusive speech. He speaks words that are soothing to the ear, that are affectionate, that go to the heart, that are polite, appealing & pleasing to people at large.

"Abandoning idle chatter, he abstains from idle chatter. He speaks in season, speaks what is factual, what is in accordance with the goal, the Dhamma, & the Vinaya. He speaks words worth treasuring, seasonable, reasonable, circumscribed, connected with the goal.

"This is how one is made pure in four ways by verbal action."

AN 10.176
 
It's quite difficult to do at any time, let alone in a venue like this one.
 
It's quite difficult to do at any time, let alone in a venue like this one.

Dhara,

The opinion of anonymous individuals on a site like this should not matter, and they don't to me. Too many people get themselves wrapped up with the words that are written about them, and I say forget those that hurt you.

You can go on asking yourself why some are this way but the real question is why should you care?

I know they will write nonsense to taunt you and then play the victim, and the reality is they do this to drag you to their level, and they're not worth it.

Enjoy the site, converse with those that are friendly to you, and the rest ( including me ) can be ignored.

Take care and may you find the path of enlightenment you are looking for so your soul will feel joy and no sorrow...
 
It's quite difficult to do at any time, let alone in a venue like this one.

Dhara,

The opinion of anonymous individuals on a site like this should not matter, and they don't to me. Too many people get themselves wrapped up with the words that are written about them, and I say forget those that hurt you.

You can go on asking yourself why some are this way but the real question is why should you care?

I know they will write nonsense to taunt you and then play the victim, and the reality is they do this to drag you to their level, and they're not worth it.

Enjoy the site, converse with those that are friendly to you, and the rest ( including me ) can be ignored.

Take care and may you find the path of enlightenment you are looking for so your soul will feel joy and no sorrow...
I'd like to hold myself to a higher speech standard that I have in the past. Not as strict as the OP, but increasingly harmless.
 

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