It's a difficult thing to understand. For example:
A man wants to be a woman, so becomes one. But still wants to only date or have sex with women. So why become one?
Case in point: Very good friends of mine that I have known for years are both "cross dressers", but call themselves female impersonators. And they do it well. Think Ru Paul sorta guys. They make their own outfits (to die for!), wear wigs, add fake fingernails...go all out in the makeup. They look damn good. And yes, they were a couple. Partners. Not married cuz this was way back when, before it was even considered as a right. One get sick? Family wouldn't let the other anywhere near the other while in the hospital. They had no rights but were a couple. Very unfair and cruel. But that's another story.
Anyway...both were aghast and shocked when I asked why they didn't become women all the way. They both said HELL no! They wanted their parts. They just tucked it all away when being a woman. Sometimes they were women during the day and performed at shows at night, sometimes they were men during the day and men at night. But they were gay. Men liking men. So why dress like a woman? I told them it was very confusing for us straighties and they said "no shit. It's confusing for us, too!".
So I don't pretend to know the answers. Neither did they. They just wanted to be themselves and that was fine with me. And when they were dressed as women, they used the MENS restrooms at the clubs where they performed. It was a no brainer to them. Men use mens room. Women use women's. But again, they still had all their parts and they were in a gay club so no problem with the patrons with them doing that. Hell, they could have used the womens restroom if they wanted too with no probs due to the location of where that restroom was.
Anyway....yeah. Confusing.
Now, a man that even as a young child, wanting to play with dolls, have tea parties, wanted ribbons in his hair....is that really a woman trapped in a mans body MENTALLY? Is the brain saying female but the body that came from the womb wound up male? Is that crazy or is that just something that didn't fully develop while in the womb? I ain't a doctor, so I don't know.
I like to keep it simple. IF the male wants to be female, goes to the extreme of being female all the way by surgery...then ok. Female she is because thats some scarey shit to go that length to become something else. Unless you are Bruce Jenner. Then it could be an age thing cuz at 60 years old and now having second thoughts...well....I dunno.
Or a child wanting it done. Is it really the child? Or another influence? Again, I do not know. Not a shrink nor a doc. I accept them, regardless, as long as they accept MY views on certain things. Like suing, insisting on changing the majority to the minority on bathroom usage or bakeries, or apparel changing rooms, etc. Acceptance means both sides accepting.
I digress, I think. Just thinking out loud and still scratching my head about the whole thing. Especially the male wanting to be female but still wanting sex with females AS a female instead of a man. That's just...weird.
A man wants to be a woman, so becomes one. But still wants to only date or have sex with women. So why become one?
Case in point: Very good friends of mine that I have known for years are both "cross dressers", but call themselves female impersonators. And they do it well. Think Ru Paul sorta guys. They make their own outfits (to die for!), wear wigs, add fake fingernails...go all out in the makeup. They look damn good. And yes, they were a couple. Partners. Not married cuz this was way back when, before it was even considered as a right. One get sick? Family wouldn't let the other anywhere near the other while in the hospital. They had no rights but were a couple. Very unfair and cruel. But that's another story.
Anyway...both were aghast and shocked when I asked why they didn't become women all the way. They both said HELL no! They wanted their parts. They just tucked it all away when being a woman. Sometimes they were women during the day and performed at shows at night, sometimes they were men during the day and men at night. But they were gay. Men liking men. So why dress like a woman? I told them it was very confusing for us straighties and they said "no shit. It's confusing for us, too!".
So I don't pretend to know the answers. Neither did they. They just wanted to be themselves and that was fine with me. And when they were dressed as women, they used the MENS restrooms at the clubs where they performed. It was a no brainer to them. Men use mens room. Women use women's. But again, they still had all their parts and they were in a gay club so no problem with the patrons with them doing that. Hell, they could have used the womens restroom if they wanted too with no probs due to the location of where that restroom was.
Anyway....yeah. Confusing.
Now, a man that even as a young child, wanting to play with dolls, have tea parties, wanted ribbons in his hair....is that really a woman trapped in a mans body MENTALLY? Is the brain saying female but the body that came from the womb wound up male? Is that crazy or is that just something that didn't fully develop while in the womb? I ain't a doctor, so I don't know.
I like to keep it simple. IF the male wants to be female, goes to the extreme of being female all the way by surgery...then ok. Female she is because thats some scarey shit to go that length to become something else. Unless you are Bruce Jenner. Then it could be an age thing cuz at 60 years old and now having second thoughts...well....I dunno.
Or a child wanting it done. Is it really the child? Or another influence? Again, I do not know. Not a shrink nor a doc. I accept them, regardless, as long as they accept MY views on certain things. Like suing, insisting on changing the majority to the minority on bathroom usage or bakeries, or apparel changing rooms, etc. Acceptance means both sides accepting.
I digress, I think. Just thinking out loud and still scratching my head about the whole thing. Especially the male wanting to be female but still wanting sex with females AS a female instead of a man. That's just...weird.