Seems to me that this "counseling" is little more than the Doctor giving you your treatment options. Which he is already paid to do. Do you go see your doctor just to talk about dying?
First: discussing Advanced Directives is not discussing "treatment options". Unless you are at the end of life and the pathology is known, there is no way to know what your treatment options are. It's more basic (i.e. would you want to be intubated? How long would you want your life to be prolonged?). Discussing this topic with patients is part of good medical care. Guess what? Death is a medical issue that every person will face and Physicians will be the ones who see you to the end in the vast majority of cases.
Second: Patients still maintain the autonomy (rightfully) to change their mind, even if it is up to the last days of their life. The verbal directive from a patient trumps all previous documentation.
As a medical student, I see it from the other end. Ever walk through an ICU? What about hospice?
There is absolutely nothing wrong (short of the histrionics of people who are scared to frigging death about their own mortality) with coming up with a pragmatic plan so that, when the time comes, your wishes are articulated and respected.
As, I said, this is becoming a standard of care. Furthermore, since it will be a primary care doctor that does this, it is doubtful that it will be the same Doctor that sees that your wishes are executed.
Either way, whether you choose to die on your own terms or not, it won't matter in the end. If you refuse to put your decisions down on paper, then someone else will decide for you. Either way, you aren't going to cheat death by utilizing the defense mechanism of denial.
To make things even worse, if someone else makes that decision for you, it's either going to be a physician who may not be acting in what you would truly want to happen or your family members who are trying to act in what they think your wishes would be (and this usually results in inter-family fighting).
You would think that after Quinlin, Cruzan, and now Schiavo, we would realize how devastating this issue can be for families and move beyond the idiotic hyperbole and have a rational debate about it.
However, the outrage pimps (I am talking about the politicians and pundits here) are more interested in seeing the matter turn into a food fight so they can gin up votes. In the end, they aren't going to be the ones that make the decision to pull the plug. Your health is just a cynical campaign issue for them.
Wake up guys. Seriously.