New Year's Eve Dinner Theater

[del]

But it's a better assumption than theirs! And far less harmful.

they made no assumption; they gave their opinion based on the facts presented by the OP.

Wrong!

to write a tome about an unfortunate incident with emphasis on their race as if only black people would act that way was typical of right wingers who claim it's "not them" who are racists but lefties who do race baiting. So now there's a whole thread full of names of people who sympathized with poor Boedicca, and I'll bet at some point in some thread they've all denied being racists.

Assumptions on top of assumptions.

buy a dictionary

 

[Midnight Marauder]

Hopefully I have inspired some thought among you about your kneejerk assumptions.

But I somehow, doubt it.

You had one clear-headed thought, and that was that their race should have been left out of the discussion.

But NOT for any "PC" reason. Had skin color been relevant (it very rarely is) I would have left the references there.

 

[Midnight Marauder]

they made no assumption; they gave their opinion based on the facts presented by the OP.

Wrong!

to write a tome about an unfortunate incident with emphasis on their race as if only black people would act that way was typical of right wingers who claim it's "not them" who are racists but lefties who do race baiting. So now there's a whole thread full of names of people who sympathized with poor Boedicca, and I'll bet at some point in some thread they've all denied being racists.

Assumptions on top of assumptions.

buy a dictionary

Thanks for pointing that out to Magpie. A forum post could hardly be called a tome!

 

[MaggieMae]

Wrong!Assumptions on top of assumptions.

buy a dictionary

Thanks for pointing that out to Magpie. A forum post could hardly be called a tome!

Definition of TOME
1: a volume forming part of a larger work
2: book; especially : a large or scholarly book

 

[Midnight Marauder]

buy a dictionary

Thanks for pointing that out to Magpie. A forum post could hardly be called a tome!

Definition of TOME
1: a volume forming part of a larger work
2: book; especially : a large or scholarly book

"part of" Hahahaha!

The OP was a excerpt?

You imbecile.

 

[del]

Thanks for pointing that out to Magpie. A forum post could hardly be called a tome!

Definition of TOME
1: a volume forming part of a larger work
2: book; especially : a large or scholarly book

"part of" Hahahaha!

The OP was a excerpt?

You imbecile.

*a* excerpt? apparently, grammar wasn't included in your journalistic *training*.

imbecile would be an upgrade in your case.

keep swinging, sammy, you're getting close.

not really

 

[MaggieMae]

Thanks for pointing that out to Magpie. A forum post could hardly be called a tome!

Definition of TOME
1: a volume forming part of a larger work
2: book; especially : a large or scholarly book

"part of" Hahahaha!

The OP was a excerpt?

You imbecile.

"Part of" in this case means the post; "larger work" is the thread. Duh.

The word "tome" is often used to define a lengthy, wordy dissertation. If you were truly a "journalist" you would already know that.

So now you may have the last word, since you JUST...CAN'T...STAND...IT... not to. Then fuck off, ya jerk.

 

[Midnight Marauder]

Definition of TOME
1: a volume forming part of a larger work
2: book; especially : a large or scholarly book

"part of" Hahahaha!

The OP was a excerpt?

You imbecile.

*a* excerpt? apparently, grammar wasn't included in your journalistic *training*.

imbecile would be an upgrade in your case.

keep swinging, sammy, you're getting close.

not really

Stop it, you're making my sides hurt. I'm gonna need OBAMACARE!!!!!

These goobs really can't hold a candle to ya, do they realize that?

You bail these idiots out (or, think you do) more than Dog the Bounty Hunter!

 

[Midnight Marauder]

"Part of" in this case means the post; "larger work" is the thread. Duh.

You used "tome" in the context of the ONE POST, you hapless dumbass!

Who's spinning now? Dolt.

But keep going, I am laughing my ass right off!

 

[Midnight Marauder]

Del, the knight in shitstained, armor-alled underwear!

 

[jillian]

how elegant.

i guess you're annoyed because *you* wanted to be the o/p's knight in shining armor and got nailed by her own words.

just sayin'

and i don't understand why you'd continue to belabor a lost point which just makes you look disingenuous.

 

[Midnight Marauder]

how elegant.

i guess you're annoyed because *you* wanted to be the o/p's knight in shining armor and got nailed by her own words.

just sayin'

Actually if you read for context you would see what I did there.

 

[jillian]

how elegant.

i guess you're annoyed because *you* wanted to be the o/p's knight in shining armor and got nailed by her own words.

just sayin'

Actually if you read for context you would see what I did there.

i know what you did.

you're amusing yourself trying to play semantics and thought you would take potshots at maggie until i jumped in.

 

[goldcatt]

NOW this is an interesting thread.

 

[Ravi]

She said she was white.

"He, at this point, seemed to have had enough of her behavior, and started berating her for "Acting Like A White Woman". Needless to say, in my years of experience being a White Woman, I have never acted like Her, nor have I ever witnessed another White Woman behaving this way either."

Wondered if you would bother going back!

However.... As it is, we really do NOT know. We know she says she is. Wait -- we also know she says she is a she! Is she?

That's my point -- you really do NOT know if it's male, female, white, black, blue, whatever. You're making your assumption based solely on your perception of Bodeicca as a white righty.

And that's all you're doing.

give it up, fool

the key to escaping a hole is to stop digging

Obviously, your knee jerk assumptions are intact.

 

[Mr.Fitnah]

I never implied she was wrong to criticize their rude behavior. But the crux of even telling the story implied that said rudeness could ONLY be perpetrated by black people.
.

You are an idiot.

 

[Lumpy 1]

Last night, Mr. Boe and I celebrated New Year's Eve and a special anniversary by dining at one of our favorite local restaurants. They were featuring a very nice preset dinner with wine pairings. I made reservations for "our table" well in advance; and we were quite looking forward to the evening.

We arrived a couple of minutes early. The place was bustling, which pleased me quite a bit as the economy is still a bit rocky. (Two of my favorite spots have closed in the last year, I'd hate to see another go under.) The owners greeted us, and mentioned that our table would soon be ready.

Stationing ourselves by the bar, we chatted with the bartender and a woman who was dining alone at the bar. I was beginning to feel that our seating was somewhat delayed when one of the owners came up to us looking somewhat flustered. She explained that another couple insisted that they had reserved our table and were quite upset, and asked if we would mind sitting at a table next to it. We told her that was no problem and not to worry.

I was curious as to who these people were; and being right next to them, had ample time for observation. What a boorish couple! They were so loud we could scarecely converse. And they were incredibly rude to the poor waitress.

First off, the Very Large Woman (she easily tips the scales at 250 lbs.) directed the waitress to allow 15 minutes between the end and the start of each of their courses. I could understand wanting to have a leisurely meal (we told the waitress we weren't in a hurry and left it at that). More on this later.

The menu began with an amuse bouche and a toast of champagne (a half pour instead of a full glass). Mr. Boe doesn't like champagne, so I poured his share into my glass and enjoyed it. When our neighbors' toasts arrives, She announced quite loudly that she wanted a full glass like I had, and made noises about being shorted in her serving. The waitress tried to explain how the menu worked, She cut her off and ordered her to bring two full glasses.

The meal was a four course version. We gave the waitress our selections, and then sat back for the dinner theater next to us as She gave her various orders. I tend to be a bit of a Sally when ordering, but She took pickiness to an entire new level.

Our first course arrived - a quite lovely butternut squash soup. Upon observing our soup, The Show decided they wanted soup instead, and when the waitress delivered the salads they had ordered, refused them and told her to bring soup instead.

We did our best to try to ignore them and enjoy our meal, but could not help overhearing their rather offensive conversation. I put the couple in the category of Aggrieved Black Yuppies With Huge Chips On Their Shoulders. Everything that happens must be done to offend them. Their behavior to the wait staff was quite consistent with this throughout the evening.

The waitress delivered The Show's second course at the proper time interval (I checked my watch out of curiosity). She told them that she "wouldn't touch that" - she wanted 25 minutes between courses. So, the waitress took the dishes away and returned 10 minutes later. This time, she was quizzed as to whether or not The Show was being served the same crab cakes and fois gras as had been presented 10 minutes earlier. The waitress didn't know, so The Show said she "wouldn't touch that" and sent the serving back for new ones.

Mr. Boe had had enough and went outside to smoke a cigarette. I continued to witness the entertainment. They then started discussing, at a volume which half the restaurant couldn't help overhearing, movies. They mentioned several old classic movies, and kept attributing the wrong actors to various parts. As they were so loud, I decided I was justified in setting the record straight, and interjected with corrections such as "Ray Milland and Robert Cummings were in 'Dial M For Murder', not Jimmy Stewart. And the movie in a British school starring Sidney Poitier was 'To Sir With Love', not 'Blackboard Jungle'. Poitier was in 'Blackboard Jungle', but he played a student."

I thoroughly enjoyed their shocked reaction, and the fact that after that they spoke with each other at a somewhat lower volume so that Mr. Boe and I could actually hear each other over our table.

The waitress then attempted to deliver the main course to The Show. She once again "wouldn't touch that" saying she wanted 30 minutes between courses. The waitress dutifully took the plate away, and returned in 5 minutes. She then examined the plate and decided that her duck breast entree, which was on the very rare side of medium rare, was overdone and that she wanted a new one. The waitress went back to the kitchen, and returned with a message from the chef that anything less done would be basically raw. She said that's how she wanted it and she "wouldn't touch that" unless is was cooked the way she wanted.

His dinner sat on the table cooling while The Show waited for the replacement duck dish. I secretly applauded the waitress for leaving His Dinner as there was nothing wrong with it. He, at this point, seemed to have had enough of her behavior, and started berating her for "Acting Like A White Woman". Needless to say, in my years of experience being a White Woman, I have never acted like Her, nor have I ever witnessed another White Woman behaving this way either.

10 minutes or so later, the waitress arrived with what can only be described as seared Duck Tartare. It looked positively revolting. She accepted the plate, and proceeded to inhale her meal in less than two minutes. After all of that production, I would have expected her to savor the course, but she just jabbed each rather large slice into her gullet. This display, in hindsight, was quite fitting.

The Show then continued to needle each other in harsh whispers for the rest of the meal. I won't describe the details of how they dealt with the wine pairings, but the method was quite similar to how the duck was handled, although with much samplings of the wine selections which ended up being a large quantity of Free Wine.

We left our waitress an extra tip; she demonstrated a great deal of fortitude and grace with The Show.

The End.

Gads.. you showed amazing restraint..

Me.. I'm teaser..

I love situations like that..

With overheard words like tubby, fat , ignorant, rich bitch and various expressions I would have that women crimson red and blowing her top.. It's my kinda fun..

 

[boedicca]

We could have it in its own section and call it, "Boedicca's Blatherings."

I prefer my customary tag line:

Random Observations Unified by Discerning Perception and Impeccable Good Taste.

That would be a fine descriptive tagline, AFTER the title!

How about, "Bo-Dicka's Burlesk!"

I prefer Boe, with an E.

 

[boedicca]

^^^Moron.

Excellent diversion, but a fair question.

i noticed the whole racial thing too..

because it was a truly significant part of the story.

i particularly enjoyed the comments about how they used their benefits money to eat there, cause you know... there are no black gentry or anything.

It's a Rorschach test which you failed. I did not say that all black people behave this way; I merely described The Show.

Details I didn't provide, but now will:

- The waitress was black.
- The couple on our other side, who were lovely, were mixed (black male; white woman).
- The owners of the restaurant are Arabs.
- The other patrons were a mix of blacks, whites, asians, and latinos.

Nobody else behaved the way The Show did.

I have never in my life seen anyone behave this way in a restaurant - but will note that, after 14 years of living in Oakland, there is a subset of Aggrieved Black Yuppies that seem to turn ever situation into somebody disrespecting them. This is relevant because the male half of The Show berated Her with the insult of "Acting Like A White Woman". He made racist statements. If you want to make my post into a bigger racial thing, then that tells me a great deal about you (not that I care to know any more than I already do).

 

[boedicca]

you can laugh.. but the reality is ... occasionally people of all types get out of hand. it isn't a common occurrance.

and race certainly shouldn't have been the focal point of the story, imo.

but then again, i'm used to being around all types of people.

Race is the focal point, BY YOUR PERCEPTION. And there was NO inference that ONLY blacks act up such as described. None whatsoever.

YOU and Magpie are WRITING racism into the story where it doesn't exist.

HOWEVER: My Journalism training tells me that -- as an editor polishing up this piece -- the couple's race isn't at all relevant to the story and could easily have been left out, left for the reader to imagine. I would have deleted those references and asked instead for better descriptions of the couple's attire, mannerisms, etc.

I think it would have strengthened the article from a feature standpoint, and the replies from the readers would have been far more entertaining and interesting.

Just because a person who you perceive as white (IS Boedicca white? You do NOT know), mentions blacks in a negative light DOES NOT make it racist!

Crimony.

That much is true. A few months back I posted a horrible personal incident that had to do with a neighbor who turned out to be a hoarder--one of those truly awful pigstys that are featured on a couple of reality programs now. It was stunning to actually be looking at (and smelling) the dump this woman had been living in. I think at some point I described her as a professional who always dressed well, was courteous, etc., but it never once occurred to me to put "white" in front of that description, nor would it occur to me to add that she was black, even if she had been.

I guess I'm just bothered by the fact that skin color still counts when some people might just casually be discussing something totally unrelated to what someone's race happens to be. Or like an ambulance EMT calling ahead to prepare ER staff of an incoming patient who is a black man with a head wound from a falling tree limb. Does the ER care that he's black? (Heard that one on the local news the other day.)

Did this hoarding person's partner stand on the sidewalk and yell at her to stop Acting Like A White Woman?