Most Annoying Personality Traits

[playtime]

Now, I would also like to ask as a follow up to this question, what is your most annoying personality trait about yourself? Mine is being (unintentionally) rude. I often say things that I wish I hadn't said out loud. It's not that they are untrue, it's how the truth can sometimes come across.

I gotta say I sometimes have a problem saying 'no' to those I love.

 

[Iron Head]

Most annoying trait to me: not cleaning up after yourself

 

[Muhammed]

you get to choose 2...
or add a few of your own or tell a story about someone that annoys the crap out of you.....

Envious/jealous people annoy me.

 

[Bonzi]

Most annoying trait to me: not cleaning up after yourself

how about not putting something back where it belongs (meaning, they are cleaning up, just not being organized.....)

 

[Bonzi]

Now, I would also like to ask as a follow up to this question, what is your most annoying personality trait about yourself? Mine is being (unintentionally) rude. I often say things that I wish I hadn't said out loud. It's not that they are untrue, it's how the truth can sometimes come across.

I gotta say I sometimes have a problem saying 'no' to those I love.

My hubby has a problem saying no to anyone! He's not figured out how to say "no" nicely....
I have to admit, even I feel guilty saying no even to the people out in front of the grocery store selling stuff....

 

[Bonzi]

And I'm not a fan of loud and plastered either

... this can be intensely annoying... especially as a serious, avid (and sober) sports fan. Especially when you go to see the game and especially football games.....

 

[Bonzi]

Interestingly, all but one is really a manifestation of the same thing - weak ego, insecurity, fear.

I'm thinking the exception is dishonesty but maybe not.

It may account for lies when you make yourself out to be more than you are.
Lying for no reason? That might be more of a pathology....

 

[Bonzi]

I very much dislike unhappy people. I think we owe it to those we interact with, to put on a happy face, as best as possible. When I come across people who are brooding or unhappy, I just ignore or stay away from them. I don't want people like that in my life.

Dennis Prager does a happiness hour on his show each week. It is enlightening.

Happiness Is a Moral Obligation - Dennis Prager
For much of my life, I, like most people, regarded the pursuit of happiness as largely a selfish pursuit. One of the great revelations of middle age has been that happiness, far from being only a selfish pursuit, is a moral demand.

When we think of character traits we rightly think of honesty, integrity, moral courage, and acts of altruism. Few people include happiness in any list of character traits or moral achievements.

But happiness is both.

Happiness — or at least acting happy, or at the very least not inflicting one’s unhappiness on others — is no less important in making the world better than any other human trait.

With some exceptions, happy people make the world better and unhappy people make it worse. This is true on the personal (micro) and global (macro) planes.
Happiness Is a Moral Obligation - The Dennis Prager Show

Pessimists can be a drag, but there's a reason they're that way and it's to some extent deserving of sympathy.

But this post and what its link advocates reminds me of what I might have chosen had it been on the list --- "fake". Or "pretentious" to put it more nicely.

I like real and respect real, even if it's negative at least it's real. I'd much rather be presented with real pessimism than fake optimism.

I see what you're saying but I will always put on a happy face to the outside world - including such shallow surface*** places as here. It could be construed as fake but I don't think so.

***Its not that "here" is shallow. Its that, for me, its not the place for depth and detail. There have been times when I was really dragging but would never post about it or talk to acquaintances about it. Good close friends - yes. Others, no.

I'm also a firm believer in what I call "act as if". I feel better if I am cheerful or, at the least, don't whine. And I feel worse if I do. Same with other feelings - like shyness.

All of the posts in this thread have been interesting and thought provoking.

Thank you.

There are some "jobs" where you have to be "fake or phony"
For example, as a Preacher/Pastor, if you feel grumpy on Sunday, you can't go around moping. I mean, you could, but, most I'm sure put on a happy face and say God is Good.....

 

[Delta4Embassy]

you get to choose 2...
or add a few of your own or tell a story about someone that annoys the crap out of you.....

Rude and Other. Hypocrisy works my last nerve faster than anything else.

 

[Bonzi]

I've dealt with liars all my life. I can handle it cause when face to face, I can tell.
It doesn't annoy me.

Pessimistic clingy complainers.... HATE!

As long as they're not complaining about ME -- I'm cool with that.. And pessimism is more easily cured than lying or arrogant.

Complaining about the same stuff over and over and not doing a damn thing to fix it... is my biggie.
Complaining about other people (gossip) is fun I have to admit (but not a very nice thing to do....)
Not sure about the pessimism part. The pessimist has to WANT to change. Many don't or feel like they can't (more pessimism!!!)

 

[Bonzi]

Whatever it is when people just won't let something go....

Or won't just agree to disagree .... sometimes It's best to just move on... maybe this is something like Nagging?

 

[playtime]

Now, I would also like to ask as a follow up to this question, what is your most annoying personality trait about yourself? Mine is being (unintentionally) rude. I often say things that I wish I hadn't said out loud. It's not that they are untrue, it's how the truth can sometimes come across.

I gotta say I sometimes have a problem saying 'no' to those I love.

My hubby has a problem saying no to anyone! He's not figured out how to say "no" nicely....
I have to admit, even I feel guilty saying no even to the people out in front of the grocery store selling stuff....

If someone is a stranger, or just an acquaintance, I can & do turn down 'requests' ... diplomatically. It's the ones that are close to me... I tend to be a 'helper', which is fine- but if there's a time conflict or something, sometimes I'll rearrange my own life to accommodate them, even when I don't want to or to my own detriment. I've at least learned to say 'no' when it will physically be bad for me, I'm too old now & don't heal as fast as I used to.

 

[ChrisL]

Self righteousness and ignorance. Really religious people . . . very annoying.

 

[playtime]

lol- then there are the assholes where I have no problem telling them to fuck off...

 

[flacaltenn]

And I'm not a fan of loud and plastered either

... this can be intensely annoying... especially as a serious, avid (and sober) sports fan. Especially when you go to see the game and especially football games.....

OK -- Sport events exception... I assume anyone NOT loud and plastered is there because they were FORCED to be there.

 

[Bonzi]

And I'm not a fan of loud and plastered either

... this can be intensely annoying... especially as a serious, avid (and sober) sports fan. Especially when you go to see the game and especially football games.....

okay to clarify, I do not drink when I'm at sporting events (because I normally drive) - plus not paying $9 for a beer!

 

[Bonzi]

lol- then there are the assholes where I have no problem telling them to fuck off...

I wish I could do that.
I can't because then they just want to fight my husband... otherwise, it would get ugly....

 

[Bonzi]

And I'm not a fan of loud and plastered either

... this can be intensely annoying... especially as a serious, avid (and sober) sports fan. Especially when you go to see the game and especially football games.....

OK -- Sport events exception... I assume anyone NOT loud and plastered is there because they were FORCED to be there.

Yeah well - I will admit I prefer to stay home, particularly if it's cold or wet!

 

[Ernie S.]

I have an intense dislike for those that make themselves the victim of every situation.

 

[ChrisL]

Well, to me, there is nothing more annoying than self righteous religious church ladies who like to ignore their own sins and point out the "sins" of others, as if they are somehow free of sin. It's hilariously annoying!

Also, ignorant political hacks who cling to their party ideals and party politics. Does it get much more disgusting than a mind lacking critical thinking skills?