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If a message board makes a person unhappy, they are most likely unhappy to begin with. It's your choice if you want to be unhappy.
I think when someone pisses you off it's sometimes wise to just ignore them. This has the unfortunate side effect of encouraging them to do it again because they feel they have won, rather than realizing that their opponent his decided they're not worth the wear on the keyboard.
I sometimes lose my temper with people. Did it with Cecilie a couple of days ago. I always regret it later. It doesn't achieve anything.
One thing I liked was Anguille's apology to Ravi the other day. That was really cool. More people should do it.
Tiger--
This is an excellent topic for discussion. Here is an article on forum addiction. I think it support your OP premise:
Effective Online Forum Usage by Steve Pavlina
We do influence each other. How do we want to be influenced and to influence others? For the positive? Or the negative?
I even did a speech on "The Art of Procrastiantion" once.
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not sure about message boards per say but a study a few years ago said the longer you are on the net or the more daily ..the more likely to be depressed...
Web causes depression â official ⢠The Register
CNN.com - Obsessive Internet use poses risk of isolation, depression, researchers say - June 13, 2000
If a message board makes a person unhappy, they are most likely unhappy to begin with. It's your choice if you want to be unhappy.
For the record, let it be known that I have always had "Chronic procrastination".
Sky, I may disagree with you on things, but I still respect you and give you the right to express your opinion, even when it's wrong
I do try to be possitive and I find this a healthy way to debate. Having two special needs kids, I don't get out of the house a lot and this is kind of therapy for me. It let's me talk to actuall adults without ever leaving home.
I have found a home for my youngest son, the low function autistic one and he'll be there part time in January. After I come back from my vacation, I'm going to be looking for a real job. I'm looking forward to getting out in the world again.
i think a lot of people on the net are much meaner and nastier than in person...its seems to be like the old arena's for glaidators....men who have been emaniculated by the social system now cyber dick rattle on the net...and women do it to but seem to engage in a more...why how shall i say this...men lie about being men...women i think always pretend to be younger sexier etc....so i guess both lie about the same things....and i think on the net people associate or talk to people they wouldnt give a damn about in rl...or they wouldnt pay them any attention....everyone can be young, wealthy and etc on the net....i have been on other message boards where people have parties etc..regional boards or larger boards where people get personal...that leads to some hellish infighting ....i think people control how personal they want to get on the net....but i think people should realize that they can hurt people with their posts etc...for ever sadist there is a submissive
I think when someone pisses you off it's sometimes wise to just ignore them. This has the unfortunate side effect of encouraging them to do it again because they feel they have won, rather than realizing that their opponent his decided they're not worth the wear on the keyboard.
I sometimes lose my temper with people. Did it with Cecilie a couple of days ago. I always regret it later. It doesn't achieve anything.
One thing I liked was Anguille's apology to Ravi the other day. That was really cool. More people should do it.
Yes, they should.
Hey, I'll have you know I was depressed, BEFORE I got on the message boards. 2 special needs kids will do that to ya....
That's not true. Timing is everything. It can be a wise choice to quit a forum. Sometimes, for whatever reason, a particular forum is not the right fit for the person. It doesn't mean the poster is inherently unhappy by nature.
It's a choice we all have to drop whatever doesn't serve us.
Good point, Abraham Lincoln said "People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
I just did a quick survey of everyone who's logged on so far today. If high MB usage equates to or could lead to clinical depression, then we need to start being caring and considerate around Willow and DiveCon (both over 40 posts per day), with DavidS having an increasingly gloomy outlook about things (just under 40 posts per day).
Sheila - you're in the mid 20's as I recall, which makes you comparatively upbeat and optimistic!
If they aren't unhappy in the first place, they are certainly prone to being unhappy if they allow a message board to make them unhappy. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy explains this well using the A-B-C-model (Activating event, Belief, Consequences).
If somebody says something I don't like (the Activating event) that makes me unhappy (the consequence), what does that say about my belief in the initial action?
Sheila - I'm afraid you're going to have to quit the Procrastinators Club. You actually wrote and delivered your speech on procrastination. Some of us experts are still getting around to it....
But I only wrote it 10 minutes before I was suppose to give my speech, that ought to count for something....
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