Man Sends Wife Spreadsheet Of All Her Excuses Not To Have Sex

[ChrisL]

Well, maybe they just aren't compatible and neither of them are bitches. Anyway, she probably should not have publicized everything. That was rather silly IMO.

I certainly think it was kind of "bitchy" for her to post everything online.

In case, however, I agree that she's probably not with-holding sex just to be mean. There seems to be a legitimate disconnect in the relationship.

While I would say that most of the fault there seems to lie on her, at least from what's been presented so far, I'm sure that he's probably played a role in this as well.

They need better communication on both ends, if you ask me.

That's true, she was totally wrong for making his issues with her public, but HE was bitchy for making a stupid spreadsheet about it too. He also said he wouldn't miss her while she was away, which was very mean and childish as well. Okay, so maybe they are both bitches. Lol!

 

[Sgt_Gath]

They've actually been perfect for one another the whole time!

Who'd a thunk it, huh?

 

[ChrisL]

Seriously, the only possible conclusion we can draw upon this little fiasco is that both of them are extreme attention whores, putting their personal stuff out there like that, and that both of them are VERY immature because they both handled the situation in an extremely poor and unproductive manner. They are quite obviously still children and not adults at all.

Damn, your logical horizons are very limited. That's the ONLY possible conclusion that you can draw from this story? Even worse, your conclusion is wrong. He didn't release anything to the public, he sent that spreadsheet to his wife. SHE released it to the public in order to find moral support from the "You Go Grrl" crowd which she intended to use against her husband in some fashion.

Most men have had wives throw back at them the claim that a complaint made by the husband needed specific evidence. This husband simply recorded the evidence in anticipation of being challenged.

She's the attention whore, not him. She put her personal business out into the world, not him. She's immature, not him. She handled this in an immature fashion, not him.

All the blame lies with her.

Okay, I should have specified that better. I think it's obvious that they both behaved quite childish. He and his spreadsheet and throwing a childish little tantrum, and her for publicizing it.

 

[ChrisL]

They've actually been perfect for one another the whole time!

Who'd a thunk it, huh?

Hey it seems to be working out for Kanye and Kim!

 

[asterism]

Married men in the 40s are thinking, "3 times in 6 weeks? What's his problem?"

 

[bianco]

Polygamists don't seem to have such problems.

The men in religions that allow basically a wife for every day of the week...don't seem to be complaining and posting spreadsheets online.

Some men seem to be 'harem happy'.

 

[PixieStix]

Man Sends Wife Spreadsheet Of All Her Excuses Not To Have Sex

Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone. He's never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it's a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won't miss me for the 10 days I'm gone. Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my 'excuses,' using verbatim quotes of why I didn't feel like having sex at that very moment. According to his 'document', we've only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 'attempts' on his part.

She needs to be a better *****. Period.

He sounds very calculating. No wonder she doesn't want to have sex with him. He probably will send her an evaluation after the act, as to how her performance was. What a control freak.

What a dumb ass, women are slow cookers, not microwaves

 

[Slyhunter]

Man Sends Wife Spreadsheet Of All Her Excuses Not To Have Sex

Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone. He's never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it's a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won't miss me for the 10 days I'm gone. Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my 'excuses,' using verbatim quotes of why I didn't feel like having sex at that very moment. According to his 'document', we've only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 'attempts' on his part.

She needs to be a better *****. Period.

He sounds very calculating. No wonder she doesn't want to have sex with him. He probably will send her an evaluation after the act, as to how her performance was. What a control freak.

What a dumb ass, women are slow cookers, not microwaves

When your problem is you aren't having enough sex making a worksheet helps define what isn't enough. He did the right thing. She did the wrong thing posting it online.

 

[PixieStix]

Man Sends Wife Spreadsheet Of All Her Excuses Not To Have Sex

She needs to be a better *****. Period.

He sounds very calculating. No wonder she doesn't want to have sex with him. He probably will send her an evaluation after the act, as to how her performance was. What a control freak.

What a dumb ass, women are slow cookers, not microwaves

When your problem is you aren't having enough sex making a worksheet helps define what isn't enough. He did the right thing. She did the wrong thing posting it online.

While I would not have posted it online. I think she showed him for the jackass he is

 

[Jarlaxle]

I didn't need an excuse. I just said NO and that was it. If he had his way, we would be doing it 6 times a day. Oh hayell no. About 12 years ago I said "That's it. I'm done". And I was.

(He was an alcoholic. By the time he finally got sober...it was too late. I love him..but I am not IN love with him. And thats that).

With us, it was the opposite. I was the one with the high sex drive, and he was the one who was usually saying, "Let's just cuddle." Now that we're divorced, he keeps wanting to get frisky, and I resent being put in the position of having to say, "That ship has sailed, dude." He's still my best friend, but I got over being attracted to him ages ago.

About a month after his first divorce (which was entirely amicable), my uncle got the surprise of his life when he found his ex in his bedroom. They had regular hookups until she got engaged about 3 years later.

He was invited to her wedding, and they're still in touch.

 

[Rikurzhen]

While I would not have posted it online. I think she showed him for the jackass he is

A wife had sex with her husband 3 times in 6 weeks and he's the jackass?

 

[Jarlaxle]

I didn't need an excuse. I just said NO and that was it. If he had his way, we would be doing it 6 times a day. Oh hayell no. About 12 years ago I said "That's it. I'm done". And I was.

(He was an alcoholic. By the time he finally got sober...it was too late. I love him..but I am not IN love with him. And thats that).

With us, it was the opposite. I was the one with the high sex drive, and he was the one who was usually saying, "Let's just cuddle." Now that we're divorced, he keeps wanting to get frisky, and I resent being put in the position of having to say, "That ship has sailed, dude." He's still my best friend, but I got over being attracted to him ages ago.

Mine never wanted to just cuddle. Cuddle meant "****". If he touched me, it was not on the arm, or a quick hug or a pat on the hand in passing. Nope. His hand always went straight to my breast to knead, or on my crotch or aimed to my ass crack. I was a slab of meat and nothing more. And when I did relent, it was not me he was making love to. It was someone else in his fantasy land drunken stupor.
His best friend (the bottle) destroyed what little bit of love I had left and finally it was enough to kill it where there was not even a spark.
We are remarried. But we are just roommates. He is my best friend. Like my brother. If he wants sex....he knows he can go anywhere he wants to get it and I won't give a damn. Only rules I have are....don't bring her home and if he wants something more serious with whomever, TELL ME so I can make arrangements to leave. He has not brought anyone home....and he said he doesn't want me to leave. So...here I am.

Honestly...that sounds like one of the most toxic relationships possible.

 

[PixieStix]

While I would not have posted it online. I think she showed him for the jackass he is

A wife had sex with her husband 3 times in 6 weeks and he's the jackass?

Yes, which is why she did not have sex with him.....Would you have sex with a computer? A spreadsheet?

 

[Pogo]

While I would not have posted it online. I think she showed him for the jackass he is

A wife had sex with her husband 3 times in 6 weeks and he's the jackass?

Yes, which is why she did not have sex with him.....Would you have sex with a computer? A spreadsheet?

Hey, it's what every woman wants --- to feel like an "X" on a graph of how many strokes are used on Wednesdays as compared to Mondays.
Nothing better to moisten the muffin. On your anniversary you get a powerpoint.

 

[PixieStix]

A wife had sex with her husband 3 times in 6 weeks and he's the jackass?

Yes, which is why she did not have sex with him.....Would you have sex with a computer? A spreadsheet?

Hey, it's what every woman wants --- to feel like an "X" on a graph of how many strokes are used on Wednesdays as compared to Mondays.
Nothing better to moisten the muffin. On your anniversary you get a powerpoint.

Exactly.....Who wants to have sex with such an uptight asshole?

 

[Rikurzhen]

While I would not have posted it online. I think she showed him for the jackass he is

A wife had sex with her husband 3 times in 6 weeks and he's the jackass?

Yes, which is why she did not have sex with him.....Would you have sex with a computer? A spreadsheet?

Are you a woman? You don't seem to have a good grasp of logic. You're stating here that the wife didn't have sex with her husband because in the future he would compile a spreadsheet chronicling her refusals. That's logically incoherent.

Look, men have been arguing with women since time began. Men recognize that women have memories like elephants and can recall, when it suits them, the tiniest and most inconsequential details of interactions they've been involved in from years, even decades, in the past and zing the husband during an argument.

For this husband to feel he needed to document the outcomes of his sex appeals it's extremely likely that the wife didn't accept his claims that she was refusing him and his own memory couldn't list off the particulars that she demanded. So if the man can't rely on his memory to satisfy his wife's demand for proof, best document the refusals as they happen.

The fact that the man felt it necessary to document these events strongly suggests that the wife refused to believe him when he was offering his recollection of the events that transpired between them. That was the wife's first mistake. Anyone who is married should recognize that impressions count just as much as reality - a misunderstanding can be as hurtful as an intended action. If the husband was feeling that they weren't having sex frequently enough that right there is problem that needs to be addressed rather than dismissed. Clearly it was dismissed, leading him to feeling the need to actually document their history.

 

[Pogo]

A wife had sex with her husband 3 times in 6 weeks and he's the jackass?

Yes, which is why she did not have sex with him.....Would you have sex with a computer? A spreadsheet?

Are you a woman? You don't seem to have a good grasp of logic. You're stating here that the wife didn't have sex with her husband because in the future he would compile a spreadsheet chronicling her refusals. That's logically incoherent.

Look, men have been arguing with women since time began. Men recognize that women have memories like elephants and can recall, when it suits them, the tiniest and most inconsequential details of interactions they've been involved in from years, even decades, in the past and zing the husband during an argument.

For this husband to feel he needed to document the outcomes of his sex appeals it's extremely likely that the wife didn't accept his claims that she was refusing him and his own memory couldn't list off the particulars that she demanded. So if the man can't rely on his memory to satisfy his wife's demand for proof, best document the refusals as they happen.

The fact that the man felt it necessary to document these events strongly suggests that the wife refused to believe him when he was offering his recollection of the events that transpired between them. That was the wife's first mistake. Anyone who is married should recognize that impressions count just as much as reality - a misunderstanding can be as hurtful as an intended action. If the husband was feeling that they weren't having sex frequently enough that right there is problem that needs to be addressed rather than dismissed. Clearly it was dismissed, leading him to feeling the need to actually document their history.

She's a woman, I'm not, and we're saying exactly the same thing.

Here's what you're missing --

Forget what's IN the spreadsheet .... the medium is the message.

Think about it: "husband complains wife declines sex" is not a story.

 

[Rikurzhen]

Think about it: "husband complains wife declines sex" is not a story.

So it's the spreadsheet that's got your panties all bunched up? If he had used NotePad and printed off a letter to her with all of the same information of date + excuse + outcome then you'd be fine with it?

 

[PixieStix]

A wife had sex with her husband 3 times in 6 weeks and he's the jackass?

Yes, which is why she did not have sex with him.....Would you have sex with a computer? A spreadsheet?

Are you a woman? You don't seem to have a good grasp of logic. You're stating here that the wife didn't have sex with her husband because in the future he would compile a spreadsheet chronicling her refusals. That's logically incoherent.

Look, men have been arguing with women since time began. Men recognize that women have memories like elephants and can recall, when it suits them, the tiniest and most inconsequential details of interactions they've been involved in from years, even decades, in the past and zing the husband during an argument.

For this husband to feel he needed to document the outcomes of his sex appeals it's extremely likely that the wife didn't accept his claims that she was refusing him and his own memory couldn't list off the particulars that she demanded. So if the man can't rely on his memory to satisfy his wife's demand for proof, best document the refusals as they happen.

The fact that the man felt it necessary to document these events strongly suggests that the wife refused to believe him when he was offering his recollection of the events that transpired between them. That was the wife's first mistake. Anyone who is married should recognize that impressions count just as much as reality - a misunderstanding can be as hurtful as an intended action. If the husband was feeling that they weren't having sex frequently enough that right there is problem that needs to be addressed rather than dismissed. Clearly it was dismissed, leading him to feeling the need to actually document their history.

Sex is not logical. That is the point, at least in my opinion. Yes, I am definitely a woman

Romance is part of sex. I think the poor logical guy forgot the logic in that

 

[PixieStix]

Think about it: "husband complains wife declines sex" is not a story.

So it's the spreadsheet that's got your panties all bunched up? If he had used NotePad and printed off a letter to her with all of the same information of date + excuse + outcome then you'd be fine with it?

Maybe he could use a little lesson in romancing her