So you see guns as a passage to manhood? I wonder if it is possible to become an adult male, strong and brave without gun, I suspect many do it without the crutch.
Did I say that? I suspect many gun owners are like me. I was exposed to them early. From my earliest memories, there was always a weapon standing up by the back door. It was a tool with which to kill food. I knew damned well not to touch it. I don't remember how I learned that, but I just did. When I was 8, I was allowed to target shoot under my father's supervision and by nine I was an expert marksman.
At 12, I bought my first gun and at 14, started hunting unsupervised with a shotgun I purchased with money I earned. (not from an allowance)
No right of passage involved. I never received a weapon from my father until shortly before his death. I still own his weapons and they are stored and maintained along with my own weapons.
My first wife was raised about the same way, though never got in to hunting.
My children were a bit older when first exposed and the 12 gauge by the door was not there because there was no game running down the street in the city of Bridgeport CT. There was a revolver and a Colt 1911 hidden from view due to the strong possibility of break ins due to the urban setting.
I did take them up to Dad's frequently to shoot and learn how to handle a weapon safely.
All 4 have owned their own weapons and the 3 that survive all have CT pistol permits and are normally armed. The tattoo artist carries one his hip in his studio, the firefighter carries to and from his job in another urban setting, but does not carry on the job more out of respect for his firearms than for the sensibilities of Connecticut Liberals.
My daughter, the sweetest thing you'll ever meet will reach in her purse and shoot you dead in a heartbeat if you threaten her person or property.
Right of passage? No. Call it a cultural thing that you can't condone, if you will; kind of like the crime in the inner city which you seem to excuse.