Interesting OP. I was married for 10 years. I enjoyed the marriage and didn't consciously want to break up, but in hindsight I see the many ways I sabotaged the relationship.
Then I dated a series of women even more crazy than myself.
I've always liked being me. I've never placed the responsibility of making me happy on someone else. The women I've been with tend to do exactly that.
Or, it will be a beautiful day, we've got the day off, we're healthy, we're doing something fun, but the woman is upset because I didn't fold my laundry or I paid a bill 2 days late, and she can't let it go. It's like, really? You're going to waste your life and try to bum me out by worrying about little stuff like that?
I'm spending my 40s as an herbivore man. I might change my mind when I hit 50, but life is so beautifully simple now. I don't have to negotiate every action I take. I don't have to put up with constant emotional blackmail.
Almost everyone I know in a relationship is constantly fighting. They tear each other down. I'm co-hosting a radio show with my friend. We did our first show on Tuesday. We get back to his place, and his wife gives us a negative review. I thought it went great, but even if I didn't, I'm going to accentuate the positives before I say what I didn't like. Everyone I've talked to liked it, except for the wife who had nothing encouraging to say.
I doubt you sabotaged the marriage (most likely little or no significant fault), especially since you are the one that didn't want it to end. That's the prime indicator.
Folding the laundry is her job.
Cook, clean and copulation (3 C's) are the three bare minimum things that she is expected to provide for all your other labors. Paying the bill 2 days late is not her concern either, unless there was a shortage of money that affected her and your children (such as food shortage, no electric/water etc). So long as she is continuously sheltered and provided resources to manage and redistribute among the family, your late bill is not her concern.
If her worst problem in the world is you not folding your laundry or paying a bill two days late, she's obviously not very busy and is living a carefree life --- on your dime. I shoved my cock in my ex's mouth once because she complained that the dishes were dirty. I should have put soap on my dick too. If she's going to "waste her life" by trying to "bum me down" when I'm the one funding her carefree lifestyle, she's literally going to eat my dick and learn whose boss or get out. She chose to get out. Then she regretted it and tried to get back in a few days later. I should have let her back in just to put that soap on my dick and tell her to suck it.
Don't change your mind, life is beautifully simple, as I've just discovered myself. I'm not a real MGTOW since I have an El Salvadorean girl cohabiting with me, but my reputation has been made well known to her by some of the other El Salv girls I know (that led me to her). Yet she stays, probably thankful to have been taken from the no-electric hut that she once lived in the forests. SHe almost looks asian since even the white/arabic spaniards never even went that far into the forest to procreate with the progeny of the asians who crossed the great ice bridge. She knows I don't tolerate bullshit. Even one of the spanish ex's has tried to get back in. Why? Because I actually don't demand anything beyond the three C's and I bring them everywhere I WANT to go (and will honor her requests where she wants to go at least 1/3 of the time) That means my el salvadoren princess follows me to the calverton gun range. Also, it's not even like cooking and cleaning is that hard with modern appliances.
Of course his wife gave a negative review. Every moment your male friend spends time doing what he likes, it's less time working and giving resources to her. His passion/hobby is her competition.
I can't tell you how many times my grandfather, brother, sister, male friends, non-related female friends praised my music and woodworking.
I can't tell you how many times my dependent grandmother (after my grandfather died), dependent sister (after grandfather died), and ex-gfs shunned it. Now that my grandfather died, playing the piano gave my grandmother and sister headaches. I was threatened with "abusing them" for playing the piano.
That's when I left (thankfully house was in my name, my grandfather gave it to me), I only paid the taxes and the the lien on the house (thanks to my grandmother running up high credit when my grandfather became afflicted by Alzheimer and could no longer monitor her spending). This means I left them for paying all the other bills. Within two months they begged me to come back in. That shut them up about their headaches and me getting a second job.
You see, I have known nothing but misery at the hands of
dependent women, family or girlfriend. And only by abandoning them/throwing them out the door, have I ever been able to regain ANY rights back from them. They consider you their MULE to fund their lifestyle.
You give them the Earth, but they demand the Moon and the Stars. Adam was content in the Garden of Eden, but Eve craved more.
