Good response. I am not saying YOU cant forgive, I am saying I cant. I will never move past it.
I remember how she was such a popular star back then and how she made it so 'cool' to attack our troops in the media, insult them and dismiss their sacrifices. And the libtards of our day, you cannot understand them without understanding that Jane Fonda helped to form their current mish-mash of self contradictory half baked ideas on American governance and foreign policy.
She wasn't the author of this idiotic bilge she spawned in the minds of so many, but she was the tool that got so many to accept it as valid.
And to this day libtards advance their own in Hollyweird so they can continue to use them to mislead their fellow idiots.
I hate the *****. I really sincerely could not care less if she was burning in hell. If I saw her on the side of the road burning in fire I would pull over and say, "This baby killer doesn't give a shit about traitors like you; burn *****" then I would get in my care and drive away, and maybe call 911.
Dear Jim: No one can be expected to forget and pretend it never happened and it was wrong. That is not the point, of course there remains accountability and correction for the wrong and damages done.
Just because we forgive a child or pet for making a mess on the floor
doesn't mean we don't clean it up and take every precaution to prevent it again.
We make it PERFECTLY clear it is unacceptable, and we cannot afford to clean up more messes.
But we don't hold on to personal resentment. We TRUST that the problem will be prevented.
That is what we need to rebuild here, that understanding and trust which was broken.
Forgiveness is to release the anger that affects YOU inside.
It is for YOUR benefit that you do not continue to suffer the ill effects and ill will
"as a result of other people's actions." That only gives YOU a negative burden to carry,
and that obstructs positive energy and it detracts from YOUR own energy and effectiveness.
Why should YOU continue to suffer this burden? The point of forgiveness is to let that go.
It is said that "unforgiveness is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die."
In other words, it merely harms you by holding YOU back, it is NOT an effective way to influence or change the other person.
The best way to hold such persons accountable is to correct the problems,
and that does not require being bitter or resentful. In fact, it is harder to correct things in that state of mind.
We are much more effective, more clear in judgment and communication to influence others when we are positive when we speak with authority.
Jim I am still going through years of stress and struggle with injustice that has never been acknowledged, answered or corrected in my own district where national history was destroyed.
I saw that whenever people are unforgiving and angry, it deters and chases help away. It has the opposite effect.
Only where people are forgiving, and willing to work together to correct all the things that went wrong, can anyone work with us.
Otherwise, the negativity just keeps us stuck. So I have been learning the hard way how unforgiveness backfires and makes problems worse.
It has kept our community stuck in "victimhood" where nobody could help until that stage passes.
Without forgiveness the problems drag out like an infected wound, instead of cleaning out the wound of all the dead unhealthy material and baggage swelling up,
so the wound can close and heal and the wrongs addressed and corrected. Walking around with a swollen infected wound just spreads the sickness pain and suffering.
It takes so much work to go back in to clean out old wounds, and reset broken bones, I have nothing but respect for any Veterans of War who survive the process and its aftermath. Nothing but respect. Someday we will learn to avoid inflicting wounds at all.
Until then, it takes us our whole lives to recover, so we pass on the good and not the bad.
Take care Jim
and Thank you!