We were very close from college in the 90s to about this year . Now we are 2 strangers
I finally decided it was best to delete and block him
. He disappeared and blew me off this year on a few occasions
. Now I am returning the favor
I have $950,000 and now zero on my inheritance list
My only (younger) brother and I recently ended a similar situation and reconciled. Last year I gave him an expensive birthday present
and a free guided kayak fishing trip worth several hundred dollars. Come my parents birthdays (a few days apart) and my birthday (a few days later, he was nowhere to be found or heard from. In fact, he missed my niece's 21st birthday without so much as a happy birthday text, my wife's birthday, our sister's birthday and Thanksgiving. At Christmas last year his relatively new (and married to someone else) girlfriend cornered my wife before dinner, at my uncle's home, and demanded to know why my brother and I were feuding and not speaking. Although my wife is much shorter, she is a fiery, feisty Guyanese East Indian with a mean left hook. Luckily, that little confrontation did not come to blows.
A bit more backstory . . .
Most of our family is neither comfortable with my brother
living with a married woman, nor said woman's foul disposition and crass tendencies. She has a tendency for gallows humor, swearing at the dinner table in front of child family members, and making fun of my father, the family patriarch, and other family elders—within their range of hearing. So there's that . . . which contributed handsomely to our recent feud. No one can stand
that woman or believe someone as upright, educated and responsible as my kid brother would go for her, let alone someone like her who has been married for over 13 years to another man.
Long story shorter: my brother and I both relented on Father's Day after not speaking a word to one another in over a year. I told myself I was doing it for our father. We took dad out to a nice restaurant and buried the hatchet for his sake. Ever since, we've been back to doing brotherly activities together, such as fishing, shooting, watching movies, playing pen and paper D&D and the like—minus his married girlfriend, who has not come around with him since we've reconciled.
Moral of the story: life is too damned short to hold grudges against siblings. However, if he brings
her around and she crosses my wife again . . .
