“I Can’t Take It Any More”

[strollingbones]

the death of a marriage lays or lies at both feet?

 

[Harpy Eagle]

When I was in my late 20s I knew a fellow Marine the same age that was on his 4th marriage....and everyone of them it was the woman's fault they did not last...according to him.

 

[strollingbones]

how did your marriage end?

male: she was cheating

female: he was abusive

never finding any fault with themselves...

 

[Harpy Eagle]

the death of a marriage lays or lies at both feet?

often, but not always.

this is my 2nd marriage. My first one was when we were both far too young and it lasted less than 3 years. She went out with some friends from work one night, did not come home for 18 hours. When she did she told me she was leaving me and moving in with her boss. I do not take too much blame for that one other than being stupid enough to marry too young and too quickly.

 

[GLASNOST]

I did read it and I did understand it.

You are blaming the woman, and it might be her fault, and it might not.

Good for you.

 

[Invisibleflash]

What does a woman mean when she says, “I can’t take it anymore, I want a divorce” but gives no explanation to what it is she “can’t take” or to give an example of what she is talking about or an incident that lets you understand that you’ve done something wrong?

No one knows, bub...except the woman. It may not be you; it may be her. Just no telling.

If you got marriage problems, go to marriage counseling or it is divorce lawyer time.

 

[Grau]

What does a woman mean when she says, “I can’t take it anymore, I want a divorce” but gives no explanation to what it is she “can’t take” or to give an example of what she is talking about or an incident that lets you understand that you’ve done something wrong?

I'm sorry about your situation.

I know that it's frustrating to be in a situation like yours because when something breaks you'd like to know why it broke so that you can avoid making the same mistake again.

In the end, it really doesn't matter why your wife wants a divorce and I would avoid pressuring her for two reasons:

1. You don't want to appear desperate.
2. You might find out something disturbing that you'd rather not know.

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck and please remember that time heals all wounds.

 

[GLASNOST]

I'm sorry about your situation.

Thank you!

I know that it's frustrating to be in a situation like yours because when something breaks you'd like to know why it broke so that you can avoid making the same mistake again.

Yes, or fix it before it's too late.

In the end, it really doesn't matter why your wife wants a divorce and I would avoid pressuring her for two reasons:

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1. You don't want to appear desperate.

Good point.

2. You might find out something disturbing that you'd rather not know.

Another good point.

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck and please remember that time heals all wounds.

Thank you very much.

 

[Grau]

Thank you!

Yes, or fix it before it's too late.

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Good point.

Another good point.

Thank you very much.

One more bit of advice from someone who has been "on the ropes in the ring of love" more than once:

Take care of yourself and try to be someone who is enjoyable to be around. No one likes to be around negative people except other negative people and you don't seem like a negative person.

Best of luck and please remember that your unfortunate situation is only temporary.
Time heals all.