I apparently matched with a woman who has OATMEAL for Brains from dating app

[fbj]

I post on the X app and I bet 80% of the messages I receive are from sex workers.

X app?

 

[Concerned American]

Maybe she doesn't work.
Maybe she works evenings.
Maybe it was the only free time she had and was calling you on her lunch break.
Maybe she was so hot for your chili that she just could not wait.

At this point I would not be complaining about girls calling you for dates.

Maybe she wanted a nooner.

 

[Concerned American]

Funny story...
So about 5 years ago or so, I belonged to a local craft beer group on Facebook.
We were going to a nearby city and asked folks what places they have been and what they likes.
I get a post from a gal talking about how awesome a couple places are, great.
Then she says "hey maybe I can come with you guys" - umm...what?
Then she sends me a message on messenger with photos of her in her underwear. I shit you not!! Now - when I was using Facebook, my banner was a big photo of me and my wife! Half the damn photos I had were the two of us.
I still don't know what planet I was on at that moment.

Maybe it was your wife---testing you. LOL JK

 

[GLASNOST]

I LIKE YOU. You are my new favorite person on here. Thank you.

Thank you.

Not sure why anyone couldnt see that was a stupid move

I don't know what level of stupid it was but the idea of internet dating is to impress someone enough to want to communicate with them. Her ringing you without at least asking your permission was stupid. Many years ago I had a similar experience. I told her not to fax me while I was at work but she did it anyway. I lost my job because of that idiot. THE BOTTOM LINE: You are right to block her and avoid certain problems with her in the very near future. If you haven't block her yet, do it now.

 

[Crepitus]

At this point, I'm not sure you can afford to be so discerning...

Facts, he's gonna die a virgin.

 

[Concerned American]

Her ringing you without at least asking your permission was stupid.

Seems to me that the restrictions on calling should have been outlined when the phone number was given out. Seems stupid to blame someone else for his own oversight.

 

[GLASNOST]

Seems to me that the restrictions on calling should have been outlined when the phone number was given out. Seems stupid to blame someone else for his own oversight.

Perhaps you are less civilized.

 

[Concerned American]

Perhaps you are less civilized.

Why would you give someone your phone number without instructions of when to call? Especially, someone you've never met before. Better question, why would you give your number to someone on an internet dating site at all. LMAO, civilized people meet in person--not on the internet. Try again.

 

[toobfreak]

Maybe she wanted a nooner.

Apparently she won't be getting one.

 

[Admiral Rockwell Tory]

If I give a woman to call me why the fuck would she call me at 12pm on a weekday? I cant believe anyone can be this fucking stupid. I said Im at work and she said me too.

I blocked that dumb bitch

You don't have a lunch break?

 

[whitehall]

Some would say oatmeal looks like brains and vice versa. You didn't kill her did you?

 

[Devils_Advocate]

If I give a woman to call me why the fuck would she call me at 12pm on a weekday? I cant believe anyone can be this fucking stupid. I said Im at work and she said me too.

I blocked that dumb bitch

She was calling because your credit card was declined and needed the money you owed her for that twelve hour sex call to the Philippines!

 

[Seymour Flops]

The chances of finding a good match through a dating app is just about zero. The women are often undatable and neurotic. I blame it partly on the man with whom she was having a relationship prior. When he realized she was going bonkers instead of supporting and understanding her ..... he left her. So, who wants to jump (cold turkey) into a relatinship who is already crazy? And as a man who thinks he is going to rescue her, he's going to get the blame for everything that is wrong with her life.

I will say that my brother, well into his forties and never married, did find a woman on a dating site. She was a heavier woman, but other than that, had her life very much together, other than never having found a husband. She is educated and with a professional job, and owned her condo. She was twelve years younger (still is), and she loves him with real devotion.

Plus which, she started taking a diabetes drug with weight loss as a side effect, and has slimmed down quite a bit.

 

[GLASNOST]

Why would you give someone your phone number without instructions of when to call? Especially, someone you've never met before. Better question, why would you give your number to someone on an internet dating site at all. LMAO, civilized people meet in person--not on the internet. Try again.

The fact that you ask such questions is a clear indication that you do not have much experience in life. That is an intelligent & honest observation, not criticism.

 

[GLASNOST]

The chances of finding a good match through a dating app is just about zero. The women are often undatable and neurotic. I blame it partly on the man with whom she was having a relationship prior. When he realized she was going bonkers instead of supporting and understanding her ..... he left her. So, who wants to jump (cold turkey) into a relatinship who is already crazy? And as a man who thinks he is going to rescue her, he's going to get the blame for everything that is wrong with her life.

I will say that my brother, well into his forties and never married, did find a woman on a dating site. She was a heavier woman, but other than that, had her life very much together, other than never having found a husband. She is educated and with a professional job, and owned her condo. She was twelve years younger (still is), and she loves him with real devotion.

Plus which, she started taking a diabetes drug with weight loss as a side effect, and has slimmed down quite a bit.

Let's be honest. Seeking a partner on a dating site indicates that you, I, or your brother are disadvantaged in at least one social aspect. I assume her "problem" is weight and probably awkward relation-worthy attributes. I see that you think it is necessary to mention her education, profession, and material advantages. That means that you consider them important. Not good.

 

[Seymour Flops]

Let's be honest. Seeking a partner on a dating site indicates that you, I, or your brother are disadvantaged in at least one social aspect.

I'd say that is true. But then, how many people can truly claim to have zero disadvantages in social aspect. But yes, going on a dating app could indicate that at least one such disadvantage is the reason for not simply meeting the right person IRL.

My brother's disadvantage, oddly enough, that he was very good looking in high school and college. Girls came to him, he never had to make the effort. He never learned how to look for a woman.

He dated a woman that he had no intention of marrying for several years, through college and beyond, until she got tired of waiting. By that time, his looks had faded, because he was never a gym bro after high school.

He still had women interested, but by that age, most were divorced with children. He was firmly against "raising some other guy's kids." He watched my wife and I sacrifice a lot so that our kids had a stay-at-home mom, and did not want to be expected to do the same.

I assume her "problem" is weight and probably awkward relation-worthy attributes.

The weight, yes. She is very social, and very likeable, but she works in education, which is heavily female.

I see that you think it is necessary to mention her education, profession, and material advantages.

Only to dispel any thought that she was broke and needing someone to support her.

That means that you consider them important. Not good.

Of course they are important. My brother is a degreed professional also. He didn't fall for an unemployed welfare dolee that needed a small scale sugar daddy.

Anyway, none of that changes the point I was making which is that it is not impossible to find a solid relationship on a dating app. Recognizing that it will likely involve a whole bunch of first dates that are doomed from the moment each sets eyes on the other IRL.

Our friend FJB is experiencing that. His disadvantage is plain. He expects the ideal woman to fall into his lap, and as soon as he detects a flaw in one of his online meetups, he loses interest.

As a Houstonian, I am honor bound to ridicule Dallas. But in truth, they are some of the friendliest people in Texas, itself a very friendly state. No reason why he shouldn't find a woman. He's tripping himself up. Unless he's just making stuff up, to be amusing.

 

[GLASNOST]

...... how many people can truly claim to have zero disadvantages in social aspect.

That's what I'm saying.

..... the point I was making which is that it is not impossible to find a solid relationship on a dating app.

That is the assumption but discovering the pecentage of "no good" is enough to make you give it up. I have found (purely personal) that the best things come to me "out of the blue". I know a lot of people say anything worth having is worth fighting for but I don't see it that way. My opinion is ..... if it comes to me I'll check it out but I don't spend any effort if someone wants to play "hard to get". They are a waste of my time.

Recognizing that it will likely involve a whole bunch of first dates that are doomed from the moment each sets eyes on the other IRL.

Our friend FJB is experiencing that. His disadvantage is plain. He expects the ideal woman to fall into his lap, and as soon as he detects a flaw in one of his online meetups, he loses interest.

I don't blame him.

As a Houstonian, I am honor bound to ridicule Dallas. But in truth, they are some of the friendliest people in Texas, itself a very friendly state.

... He's tripping himself up.

I don't think so. He may have experience or he may have none. Either way, he trusts his instincts.