Grief: Coping with reminders after a loss.

[Mindful]

Grief doesn't magically end at a certain point after a loved one's death. Reminders often bring back the pain of loss. Here's help coping — and healing.

7 Steps for Managing Grief and Loss - Mayo Clinic News Network

LE SUEUR, Minn. — Grief is summarized as sadness felt after suffering loss. Although that’s a fine cursory definition, it doesn’t really give grief true meaning. Grief is a deep and sometimes complex response to loss. Behavioral health provider and social worker at Mayo Clinic Health System...

www.mayoclinic.org

 

[strollingbones]

thanks mom died feb 4 2020...oddly at the time i just tossed myself into the things that needed to be done...not wanting to be a hypocrite .i didnt do the deep mourning thing...now i am crying at her favorite cookies in the damn grocery

 

[Mindful]

thanks mom died feb 4 2020...oddly at the time i just tossed myself into the things that needed to be done...not wanting to be a hypocrite .i didnt do the deep mourning thing...now i am crying at her favorite cookies in the damn grocery

I remember seeing my dad’s bedroom slippers. And he wasn’t there.

 

[Mindful]

A relative drove me to the hospital to collect his clothes.

I cried all the way home in the car.

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

A year and a week after losing my husband.

I moved halfway across the country. It helps a little not seeing the town we lived in, all the reminders.

What helps most is, perversely, knowing he was lucky to not see all the turmoil of covid, the riots in the town we loved, the vicious fighting that goes on over politics, the worst of the media lies.

 

[Hang on Sloopy]

Look what you people are doing to me.STOP!!!!

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

I remember seeing my dad’s bedroom slippers. And he wasn’t there.

I put off cleaning out my husband's closet for a long time.

 

[Turtlesoup]

thanks mom died feb 4 2020...oddly at the time i just tossed myself into the things that needed to be done...not wanting to be a hypocrite .i didnt do the deep mourning thing...now i am crying at her favorite cookies in the damn grocery

My father has been dead for over 30 years, I still cry a little when I see yellow roses. He loved them.

 

[Hang on Sloopy]

Grief doesn't magically end at a certain point after a loved one's death. Reminders often bring back the pain of loss. Here's help coping — and healing.

7 Steps for Managing Grief and Loss - Mayo Clinic News Network

LE SUEUR, Minn. — Grief is summarized as sadness felt after suffering loss. Although that’s a fine cursory definition, it doesn’t really give grief true meaning. Grief is a deep and sometimes complex response to loss. Behavioral health provider and social worker at Mayo Clinic Health System...

www.mayoclinic.org

It is way worse when someone dies suddenly for me. When you have time to prepare for the inevitable, you seem to cry it out a lot over dismal time

 

[Hang on Sloopy]

Grief doesn't magically end at a certain point after a loved one's death. Reminders often bring back the pain of loss. Here's help coping — and healing.

7 Steps for Managing Grief and Loss - Mayo Clinic News Network

LE SUEUR, Minn. — Grief is summarized as sadness felt after suffering loss. Although that’s a fine cursory definition, it doesn’t really give grief true meaning. Grief is a deep and sometimes complex response to loss. Behavioral health provider and social worker at Mayo Clinic Health System...

www.mayoclinic.org

Am I the only guy on this thread...lolol

 

[strollingbones]

i have this ashtray..its a turtle for some reason my father took it with him on both tours of vietnam....i keep up with it ...you would think the way i act it was made of gold and diamonds

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

My father has been dead for over 30 years, I still cry a little when I see yellow roses. He loved them.

Me too. Hubby always gave me yellow roses.

 

[Mindful]

Am I the only guy on this thread...lolol

There are some onlookers I think.

The rest are brawling downstairs.

 

[Moonglow]

My old man was a drunk and beat people mercilessly, I never cry over his death.

 

[Innocynioc]

My wife of fifty-one years died suddenly of a heart attack on July 1,2021. I now live alone in our old country house. Many little things are reminders of her. One example is the first time I laundered my bed clothes after her passing it occurred to me that making the bed up by myself was something I hadn't done in over half a century. I missed her so badly I was overwhelmed with grief.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Me too. Hubby always gave me yellow roses.

Red roses mean love. Yellow roses means "we are friends".

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

Red roses mean love. Yellow roses means "we are friends".

That's cool, because he was my best friend ever.

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

My wife of fifty-one years died suddenly of a heart attack on July 1,2021. I now live alone in our old country house. Many little things are reminders of her. One example is the first time I laundered my bed clothes after her passing it occurred to me that making the bed up by myself was something I hadn't done in over half a century. I missed her so badly I was overwhelmed with grief.

God, that's recent. I lost my hubby October 4, 2020.

It became impossible to live in the home we owned, in the town we lived in. The memories were too painful.

My condolences to you. Hang in there and concentrate on things like a favorite photo. I have different sized copies of my favorite photo of hubby in every room of the house.

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

One thing that helps with the transition is keeping my hubby's favorite things around. I had crystals in the living room window so when the morning sun hit them, they threw rainbows all over the walls, and he loved those rainbows. So I had to hang them in the living room window of my new home, so I still get the rainbows every morning.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Oddly, out of all the humans I have lost, the only sense of loss is my dog. I dream of her every night. She's been gone 8 years. I have her ashes and her favorite toy.