It appears you put more value on one vs the other.
They both made their choices. For the gay guy, he chose the dirt road instead of his home life: a talented architect and business owner, beautiful wife, three healthy kids, fine tudor home in an upscale neighborhood in an upscale town, first person my parents knew that owned a Caddy, another huge beautiful home on the beach in Kennebunkport Maine.
For the drug addict, he chose the gutter instead of a promising professional career with the Ford Motor Company, big bucks, stock options, a new car of his choice avery 9 months, some very lovely girl friends, the body and mind of a US Marine Sargent, and a large extended family that wished him nothing but sucess.