I have compassion for everybody, Sky. I've worked with sex offenders, murderers, the damaged and the hopeless. I have compassion for you.
But I will still call you on lying. It's not a good trait. Nor will I ever condone most of the things you advocate here - namely abortion, bigotry and oppression. You can engage in all the histrionics you like. My compassion does not lead me to enable you r anyone else that engages in harmful practices and ideology. Compassion is not interchangeable with enabling.
Hi AllieBaba: Thanks to you and also Sky for giving some more background on here.
I believe Sky made it clear she has been through recovery steps from PTSD. She is not going to be perfect in how she says things to people. Many things can be mistaken, and you can both be frustrated and get very different impressions of people. I'm sure if you met in person you would probably get a different impression, to see each other in context.
As for your posts
1. First to be consumed with whether someone else is a compulsive liar is not going to change that person. Only Sky can change herself. If she doesn't receive correction from you, she will get help from someone else, usually someone she is helping in return at the same time. Not everyone has that relation with just anyone else. So if you and she do not help each other to grow and change, there is nothing wrong with that. You will both find other ways or other people. That doesn't mean denial just because you don't inspire each other in that way!
Allie as long as you are honest as you can be, and YOU don't do the things that upset you so much about Sky, then you are doing your part! It is enough to work on yourself, to be the best you can be, that is a fulltime job. That is wonderful and admirable that you care to correct faults you see in your neighbor that you know can be improved. Focus on yourself and that is all that can be expected of you. I thank you for your input, and I am interested in your insights and contributions. I'm sure Sky does too, but somehow she cannot express this to you in a way you feel she is honestly listening. Sorry for this.
The internet is not perfect, neither is she, neither are you or I. We can all give or get the wrong impression on here, and I believe that must have something to do with why this is still going on and not resolved. You both sound like caring compassionate people. If Sky is FU then let her work on that herself. She would have to resolve her issues to be in the field of work she is in. Every interaction is like group therapy. She will get help as she gives it. Don't worry. If she has lies or biases, those will have to be fixed along her path.
2. As for pro-choice being pro-abortion, we can talk about that more. That is an interesting point, same as pro-life being seen as anti-choice. That kind of bias does need to be resolved in order to work together to prevent abortion.
I am also pro-choice in terms of constitutional legislation, and for the choice of the death penalty. But I am against abortions and executions, and believe in preventing them altogether. I just believe this can best be achieved under pro-choice approaches, and not necessarily banning abortions or executions, but avoiding legislative competition over religious views. I would rather people on both sides work together to prevent abortions, unwanted sex/pregnancy, and prevent capital crime to stop capital punishment at all.
So just because I am pro choice does not mean I am for abortion.
I just ask pro-life people, who absolutely believe abortion is wrong and would NEVER do anything to allow abortion, to see that their views are not forced by law -- prochoice laws do NOT influence you to condone abortion. So everyone should have the same freedom to come to this same conclusion and belief without force of law, as you believe against abortion without laws forcing you to! You believe and practice prolife by free will.
So I ask the same consideration of other people to get there by free will not force of law.
My boyfriend says something similar, he says he is anti-abortion but pro-choice both.
The only difference with prolife people, is that they are so against abortion they are willing to make it against the law to make that statement. That is similar to anti-gun people who are so against or so afraid of abuses of guns to kill they are willing to ban guns to send that message. As individuals, we are free to express our beliefs and practice what we believe. But for government officials under the Constitution, the state is supposed to respect religious freedom equally for all people, and thus any laws that invoke personal beliefs should be passed by consensus to make sure no bias is imposed unconstitutionally.
The best way I know to be fair to both prochoice and prolife positions is to support laws that reflect a consensus of both, of all parties affected, and work together to prevent the causes of abortion without the force of law unless we all agree how those are written.
I believe this would also save resources for more effective counseling, education, and health care to prevent relationships abuse, rape, unwanted pregnancy and abortion, instead of wasting valuable resources fighting politically and legally over written laws.
Cooperation and mutual respect for each other's views is legally necessary under the Constitution and the Code of Ethics calling for more efficient and economical solutions:
ethics-commission.net
Allie if you would like to discuss this more, I think this is important and beneficial than worrying about Sky's problems. She will take care of those herself. But these other issues, this will take EVERYONE I know to work this out in order to resolve these conflicts.
I encourage you to focus where you can do the most good and have greatest impact.
Take care and I hope you feel better soon about Sky.
She sounds like she has been through a lot, and has a long journey ahead.
You have your own journey, that will require your full attention and effort.
If Sky does not help you with that, to improve yourself, then why focus on her?
Your purpose in life is more important.
You are more valuable than picking on differences with Sky that wil resolve themsleves.
Yours truly,
Emily
