Estrangement of Adult Children

[DGS49]

"A friend of mine" [as the saying goes] is experiencing a phenomenon that seems to be more and more common. S/he has been "cut off" from their son and grandchildren for reasons that appear either vague, nonsensical, or petty.

These are not children. They are in their 30's 40's and beyond. They were raised in middle-class households, fully supported throughout their childhood with good schools, active social and recreational lives with parents doing everything possible to make those activities possible and beneficial. They were financially supported without limits, showered with gifts and other niceties, which generosity was continued with their own children.

And they are cut off. The adult children are "in counseling," taking prescription mood enhancing drugs to address the traumas(?) that they experienced from childhood. They can't articulate these traumas because it is too painful. To be clear, we are not talking about cases of parental alcoholism, drug abuse, or any other kind of abuse. There was no fighting in the home, no significant punishments administered, and in fact the kids were pretty much free to chart their own course...and did so.

Is there something going on that we Boomers are not aware of?

My friend is about to disinherit the fukkers, and can't think of any reason not to.

 

[TNHarley]

"how can i be a victim today" strikes again, it sounds like. Kick their asses out of the will. Leave it in a trust for the grandbabies for when they become adults.

 

[1srelluc]

Meh, a quieter Thanksgiving and fewer Christmas presents to buy.

 

[martybegan]

"A friend of mine" [as the saying goes] is experiencing a phenomenon that seems to be more and more common. S/he has been "cut off" from their son and grandchildren for reasons that appear either vague, nonsensical, or petty.

These are not children. They are in their 30's 40's and beyond. They were raised in middle-class households, fully supported throughout their childhood with good schools, active social and recreational lives with parents doing everything possible to make those activities possible and beneficial. They were financially supported without limits, showered with gifts and other niceties, which generosity was continued with their own children.

And they are cut off. The adult children are "in counseling," taking prescription mood enhancing drugs to address the traumas(?) that they experienced from childhood. They can't articulate these traumas because it is too painful. To be clear, we are not talking about cases of parental alcoholism, drug abuse, or any other kind of abuse. There was no fighting in the home, no significant punishments administered, and in fact the kids were pretty much free to chart their own course...and did so.

Is there something going on that we Boomers are not aware of?

My friend is about to disinherit the fukkers, and can't think of any reason not to.

The "mid life crisis" for millennials seems to be happening earlier than for previous generations.

They were the first kids to get participation awards and the first to be truly coddled by their parents. Their parents are a combo of late boomers and early gen-x'ers to me.

 

[The Sage of Main Street]

"A friend of mine" [as the saying goes] is experiencing a phenomenon that seems to be more and more common. S/he has been "cut off" from their son and grandchildren for reasons that appear either vague, nonsensical, or petty.

These are not children. They are in their 30's 40's and beyond. They were raised in middle-class households, fully supported throughout their childhood with good schools, active social and recreational lives with parents doing everything possible to make those activities possible and beneficial. They were financially supported without limits, showered with gifts and other niceties, which generosity was continued with their own children.

And they are cut off. The adult children are "in counseling," taking prescription mood enhancing drugs to address the traumas(?) that they experienced from childhood. They can't articulate these traumas because it is too painful. To be clear, we are not talking about cases of parental alcoholism, drug abuse, or any other kind of abuse. There was no fighting in the home, no significant punishments administered, and in fact the kids were pretty much free to chart their own course...and did so.

Is there something going on that we Boomers are not aware of?

My friend is about to disinherit the fukkers, and can't think of any reason not to.

France in the 1780s

Spoiled brats are finally being shamed for being put ahead of us from cradle to grave by Daddy's Money. They weren't even warned about this, because the RichKid Reich believes it has everything under control, mind-control.

 

[The Sage of Main Street]

Kick their asses out of the will. Leave it in a trust for the grandbabies for when they become adults.

Internal Brain-Drain

No more birth-heirs. Give it to the most talented of the next generation instead of forcing geniuses to sacrifice their manhood, maturity, and minds to class-climb on a ladder of thorns.

 

[initforme]

Its not a crisis just like the weirdos who claim we arent having enough babies.

 

[1srelluc]

Its not a crisis just like the weirdos who claim we arent having enough babies.

No shit, given the population increase since 1970.

1970....203.4 million.

2025....347.3 million.

Enough already....Of course the extra is likely illegals and their spawn over two generations+.

 

[initforme]

A shrinking workforce forces emoyers to work harder to find workers. Thats a win all the way around.

 

[Unkotare]

Internal Brain-Drain

No more birth-heirs. Give it to the most talented of the next generation instead of forcing geniuses to sacrifice their manhood, maturity, and minds to class-climb on a ladder of thorns.

Broken record ^^^

 

[Unkotare]

Its not a crisis just like the weirdos who claim we arent having enough babies.

Broken record II ^

 

[The Irish Ram]

"A friend of mine" [as the saying goes] is experiencing a phenomenon that seems to be more and more common. S/he has been "cut off" from their son and grandchildren for reasons that appear either vague, nonsensical, or petty.

These are not children. They are in their 30's 40's and beyond. They were raised in middle-class households, fully supported throughout their childhood with good schools, active social and recreational lives with parents doing everything possible to make those activities possible and beneficial. They were financially supported without limits, showered with gifts and other niceties, which generosity was continued with their own children.

And they are cut off. The adult children are "in counseling," taking prescription mood enhancing drugs to address the traumas(?) that they experienced from childhood. They can't articulate these traumas because it is too painful. To be clear, we are not talking about cases of parental alcoholism, drug abuse, or any other kind of abuse. There was no fighting in the home, no significant punishments administered, and in fact the kids were pretty much free to chart their own course...and did so.

Is there something going on that we Boomers are not aware of?

My friend is about to disinherit the fukkers, and can't think of any reason not to.

Tell your friend that I said, "Give love where you get love".

 

[MarcATL]

Not enough info.

For all we know those boomers could have been mentally abusing those kids.

 

[initforme]

Families separating is not an issue. So be it.

 

[Unkotare]

Families separating is not an issue. So be it.

 

[TroglocratsRdumb]

Parents give unconditional love, but their children don't.

 

[Admiral Rockwell Tory]

I live with my daughter, my son lives 5 minutes from me, and my other daughter lives 2 1/2 hours away and I see her every couple of weeks and we talk daily or text. Don't have this problem.

 

[GLASNOST]

Estrangement of Adult Children​

I know.

Is there something going on that we Boomers are not aware of?

Yes. Feminism. Children are not getting much "father figure" experience. Out in the world people come to understand that feminism is an unnatural concoction. Both sons and daughters grow up to resent the lack of assertiveness in their fathers and blame them for what has been missing in their lives. In other words, they are not prepared for real life.

 

[GLASNOST]

Tell your friend that I said, "Give love where you get love".

That is dealing with an issue, not preventing it.

 

[Jarlaxle]

France in the 1780s

Spoiled brats are finally being shamed for being put ahead of us from cradle to grave by Daddy's Money. They weren't even warned about this, because the RichKid Reich believes it has everything under control, mind-control.

Internal Brain-Drain

No more birth-heirs. Give it to the most talented of the next generation instead of forcing geniuses to sacrifice their manhood, maturity, and minds to class-climb on a ladder of thorns.

You need a lobotomy.

Parents give unconditional love, but their children don't.

May your childlike innocence never be shattered.