Estrangement of Adult Children

[SweetSue92]

Yes. It is a "Thing."

Cutting Off Your Parents Is Identity Politics, Not 'Boundaries'

The practice of severing family often takes on an authoritarian tenor that presumes the adult child cutting contact is always right.

thefederalist.com

It is very much a thing, and the spoiled children have convinced themselves that in every case, the parents are at fault. It is not--and could never be--that the adult kids are immature selfish brats, no.

I really really hope these parents disinherit their kids

 

[Hafar1014]

"A friend of mine" [as the saying goes] is experiencing a phenomenon that seems to be more and more common. S/he has been "cut off" from their son and grandchildren for reasons that appear either vague, nonsensical, or petty.

These are not children. They are in their 30's 40's and beyond. They were raised in middle-class households, fully supported throughout their childhood with good schools, active social and recreational lives with parents doing everything possible to make those activities possible and beneficial. They were financially supported without limits, showered with gifts and other niceties, which generosity was continued with their own children.

And they are cut off. The adult children are "in counseling," taking prescription mood enhancing drugs to address the traumas(?) that they experienced from childhood. They can't articulate these traumas because it is too painful. To be clear, we are not talking about cases of parental alcoholism, drug abuse, or any other kind of abuse. There was no fighting in the home, no significant punishments administered, and in fact the kids were pretty much free to chart their own course...and did so.

Is there something going on that we Boomers are not aware of?

My friend is about to disinherit the fukkers, and can't think of any reason not to.

When there is an emotional cut off that indicates poor parenting during the early years of development and a poor attachment. Or there could be an underlying disorder.

 

[initforme]

It is very much a thing, and the spoiled children have convinced themselves that in every case, the parents are at fault. It is not--and could never be--that the adult kids are immature selfish brats, no.

I really really hope these parents disinherit their kids

Worst thing those parents can do is disinherit their kids. Things in this life happen and those parents would regret that decision every ladt minute of their lives. Keeping the door open is always the best policy. The open door policy is a key component of christianity. Forgiveness trumps all.

 

[Mac-7]

"A friend of mine" [as the saying goes] is experiencing a phenomenon that seems to be more and more common. S/he has been "cut off" from their son and grandchildren for reasons that appear either vague, nonsensical, or petty.

These are not children. They are in their 30's 40's and beyond. They were raised in middle-class households, fully supported throughout their childhood with good schools, active social and recreational lives with parents doing everything possible to make those activities possible and beneficial. They were financially supported without limits, showered with gifts and other niceties, which generosity was continued with their own children.

And they are cut off. The adult children are "in counseling," taking prescription mood enhancing drugs to address the traumas(?) that they experienced from childhood. They can't articulate these traumas because it is too painful. To be clear, we are not talking about cases of parental alcoholism, drug abuse, or any other kind of abuse. There was no fighting in the home, no significant punishments administered, and in fact the kids were pretty much free to chart their own course...and did so.

Is there something going on that we Boomers are not aware of?

My friend is about to disinherit the fukkers, and can't think of any reason not to.

Which universities did the wacko adult children attend?

And did the parents notice the children had a screw missing in high school or did it only show up later?

 

[JohnDB]