Hi Guno:
After reading through what he said, or the excerpts of it,
I read more a "sexist" tone of talking down to the woman
and talking down about other men and people as a way of
establishing pecking order and authority as a "male."
I think that sexism favoring his view over hers is predominant,
and then race or religion or whatever label he puts on people
he considers "less important or equal as himself" is clung to, in that context
and for that purpose.
His unwillingness to change his mind or change how HE is,
which he justifies by saying 'that's how it is in society, everyone does it'
sounds more like a male thing first, and then racism by groups as a result.
I already heard some other men talking about this issue as
"low-hanging fruit" for the media and others to jump all over as an "easy target."
So even the response by other men shows how they respect and forgive
other people whom they align with as part of their own social group or class,
but they will jump on any man or any one who "threatens" their authority.
I would like to see the sexism and racism addressed at the same time,
to see if that is more effective in resolving why he used those words to
talk down to the woman (and talk down about others by race) in this way.
It sounds to me like he was using race
and his words to "establish territory" and dominance.
I especially found that comment about "you can FU him" to be sexist.
So that's where it dawned on me that he may have been expressing that
first and then it colors his views and attitudes towards "other men by race."
This gave me insight about other men I have trouble working and talking with
because they project so much, trying to defend their territory. They talk down to me, often without
realizing it, as my views being different is seen as outside influence or change
coming from "some other group" they don't relate to or may have taken issue with to attack to defend their ground.
All people make associations by group,
but the way men think to be autonomous, and separate what is their jurisdiction and territory
from other people or groups, this can become especially pronounced.
This is interesting to me, because I had feminist friends tell me nonstop that
the gender issues trump racism and any other form of class division or oppression.
And I didn't believe them; I thought it depended on the person.
But over and over, I see that people's gender colors how we perceive, related, interact and communicate.
And within those parameters, then the race, class, religion and other group labels are added
as additional layers and divisions.
This is very interesting; and I didn't expect to get anything meaningful
out of "just another story" complaining about someone's racist remarks.
This actually revealed a lot, and confirmed what other people had told me,
and why I can't always get anywhere with how people think.
I don't think it is their fault more than mine when I do this;
I think we do need to be aware how we all do this in different ways.
We can all benefit from this realization.
Wow, I think about terrible things I thought about saying out of anger and frustration with people,
and I could sound just as awful (relatively speaking/compared with the norm for me) as this man or Clive Bundy.
I've been driven to that point, and the only thing that stopped me from saying really God awful
things was my friends understood how frustrated I was and counseled me not to say those things.
If these men had friends like I do, who understand exactly why and what I want to say those things,
and forgive me anyway so I can vent it out, maybe they wouldn't make mistakes in public.
This makes me grateful for my friends.
Everyone should have friends you can say whatever-the-hell to, and they will
still let you work it out and not hold it against you to make the problems worse. Wow.
To my games
Donald Sterling, the owner of the NBA’s Los Angeles Clippers, told his girlfriend not to post pictures on Instagram of herself with black people and not to bring black people to his basketball games, according to an audio recording posted by TMZ.
In the recording, Sterling and his girlfriend are fighting over a picture she posted to Instagram of herself with NBA legend Magic Johnson, and Sterling demands that she stop “broadcasting” that she associates with black people. Sterling tells his girlfriend: “You can sleep with [black people]. You can bring them in, you can do whatever you want. The little I ask you is not to promote it on that … and not to bring them to my games.”
Later, he makes the point specifically about Magic Johnson, telling her that “it’s too bad you can’t admire (Johnson) privately…bring him here, feed him, f*** him, I don’t care. You can do anything. But don’t put him on an Instagram for the world to see so they have to call me. And don’t bring him to my games. OK?”
I hope he loses his franchise or people don't buy tickets to his games
Clippers Owner Donald Sterling Tells Girlfriend: Don't Bring Black People To My Games | ThinkProgress
Clippers Owner Donald Sterling Tells Girlfriend: Don't Bring Black People To My Games | ThinkProgress
