Christians - does your church prepare you for marriage?

[The ClayTaurus]

What does that mean... "put up or shut up"? If you're stuck in a marriage like that, you're already "putting up." So the person is just supposed to "shut up"? Like "So you're miserable. Sorry about your luck, but I don't want to hear about it"?

By put up I meant leave, sorry. Confusing wording.

 

[Bonnie]

Honey, if I were just attracted to minds I woulda made a move on gop_jeff a year ago.

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OHHH Jeffs ears are ringing now!!

 

[Abbey Normal]

That's assuming one person has no culpability and the other is completely at fault. People can fall out of love if there is anger or resentment that builds up and is never addressed. But I think your right that if it comes to a point that everything possible has been done to save the marriage and one person is not in it 100% there doesn't seem to be much hope.

Bonnie, the bolded statement is so true. Nothing kills love like built-up resentment, IMO.

 

[Nienna]

Mom, the bolded statement is so true. Nothing kills love like built-up resentment, IMO.

I agree 110%, Abbey. That's why Jesus is so fundamental to keeping love alive. He alone can truly remove resentment.

 

[Abbey Normal]

Marriage the ultimate sacrifice of one's freedom? I know when I married my wife, its was a marriage with Christ at the center of focus. I learned to set aside my needs for hers. She tends to do the same and we have total unity with each other. This is so hard to explain in words and I am a lousy writer.
Its like our walk with Christ. We surrendered our lives to Him. We live to serve Him and not our selfish needs. I am not saying we can't have any pleasure in our lives. I am just saying if we put Christ first above all things, all those other needs and wants according to His desire will be blessed upon us.(Matthew 6:33) I hope I am making some sense here, because I have been there and dealt with some of those issues. I guess what I am saying in a nut shell is really understand yourself and who you really are. Cast aside all selfishness and serve your wife with unconditional love. To really grasp this, is to really understand your relationship with Christ Jesus. (Matthew 6:21) "For where your treasure is, there your hearts will be also."

I think you are a very good writer. Many good points.

 

[dilloduck]

I agree 110%, Abbey. That's why Jesus is so fundamental to keeping love alive. He alone can truly remove resentment.

Only if you ask for it.

 

[Nienna]

Only if you ask for it.

Exactly. It takes a huge effort, if the resentment is deeply set. It's not a free ride.

 

[dmp]

Exactly. It takes a huge effort, if the resentment is deeply set. It's not a free ride.

...and it's hard to get over resenting somebody who claims to be innocent of all wrong doing...who lives and breathes with 'I'm just this way - you'd better accept this cuz it's not getting any better."

:-/

I need a vacation.

 

[Abbey Normal]

Mom, your PM box is full.

 

[Nienna]

Mom, your PM box is full.

Not any more! Sorry.

 

[dmp]

Mom, your PM box is full.

Not any more! Sorry.

Okay girls, get a room...and get me the key to the door.

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[GotZoom]

Okay girls, get a room...and get me the key to the door.

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TTIWWP

 

[dmp]

TTIWWP

cue music:

"Burnch-chicka-burn-bow...."

 

[5stringJeff]

Honey, if I were just attracted to minds I woulda made a move on gop_jeff a year ago.

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You and the other 98% of America.

 

[Said1]

I take issue with the fact that this post is addressed to Christians.



















:halo:

 

[Bonnie]

cue music:

"Burnch-chicka-burn-bow...."

LOL

 

[deaddude]

I went to a catholic school, they did not try to address marriage, however I could not help but crack up when they had the preacher give us the sex talk.

 

[Nienna]

Honey, if I were just attracted to minds I woulda made a move on gop_jeff a year ago.

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gop_jeff IS a mental stud!

 

[The ClayTaurus]

I went to a catholic school, they did not try to address marriage, however I could not help but crack up when they had the preacher give us the sex talk.

Sort of like listening to a blind man describe purple?

 

[Nienna]

Sort of like listening to a blind man describe purple?

You never know about those priests (no pedophile jokes,please). Our priest quit the priesthood and moved to Florida with his lady friend.