No one ever said any of that.
The problem is it's somehow not ok for women to dress or act like women in pop culture. That somehow a lady mouse in a dress isn't a good role model or something. So instead of creating a new character, they took a classic old one and changed it. Not everything needs to updated or changed to suit modern social agendas.
Superman can't even be Superman anymore. Now he needs to be a younger gay man. Little orphan Annie has to be a black girl. Mini mouse can't dress like a woman despite millions of women liking to wear dresses. And so on.
It's shameless pandering and you're hand waving is the reason it exists.