Joz said:Slutty does not get you better tips. Slutty gets you disrespect. How can I be taken seriously if I look like I'd let any man jump me? First, I'm mostly dealing with men. Then under the inflluence of alcohol. The woman behind the bar can become "just another whore" (unpaid) quite quickly. I've had this problem VERY FEW times. This is not to say that I dress like a house frau. You can most definately tell I'm female.
But I've worked with women who purposely show their lacy bras, tell customers that they aren't wearing underwear, show their boobs for tips. Sure the men like that, but I hear what they say. I'll opt for respect.......anytime.
That would depend entirely on what type of bar you work at, and which clientelle you gather. Many women trade on their sexiness to get larger tips, etc. What they give up is the "being treated seriously" part in order to get more money. We understand such transactions and they are chosen in many ways. Which clothes a woman or man wears would be just one of them, but it is communication regardless. To ignore the message a person sends with how they dress is ignoring a large portion of the communication we use in our society.
I will be sure to inform my daughters how their clothes say things, and make sure their clothing supports the message that they are trying to get across. Much like body language, this form of communication is important. Imagine dressing incorrectly while going to an interview and expecting them to not judge your mode of dress, you are unlikely to be successful getting the job you are trying for.