"competition"? i don't want, Boss or Ding, to, "get on my case".
Yes, there is competition for the attention of women. But surely you do not expect some outside power to come in an force her to cater to your desires simply to make things equal?
If you have competition, the only way to win is to be better than them. Your
only option is to show the woman that you are the better choice. Because it comes down to her choice.
Oh, and this "I need some nice girl to help me build my stamina and skills" nonsense is not the way to do it. You might get a pity **** once in your life. But nothing worthwhile. And trying to convince a nice girl to choose you so that you can get better for a future girl is a slap in the face of the nice girl you want to help you.