So it's not the cake or the wedding.
It's about who they're making a cake for and who is having the wedding.
In case you didn't know, that's discrimination and illegal.
They and you can have all the beliefs you want.
You can't violate the law.
Why do you believe you and the baker should have special rights?
The law is being wrongly applied. Not one of them said they wouldn't sell them cakes for other events, just for the wedding.
They think SSM relationships are sinful, and a wedding is an open tangible celebration and affirmation of said relationship, and they want nothing to do with it.
And you are arguing the "how", i.e. The law is the law is the law, not the why. The why is what tangible benefit does government get from ruining a baker over not wanting to bake a cake, a contracted, non-immediate, non-emergency good or service.
Why does the gay couple's butt hurt override without question the baker's butt hurt?