And terribly destructive. And about ego more than anything else. As usual.
To toss out an idea that would actually be workable if the two ends could grow up and work together:
First, a 15-week limit on gestation. Second, the two ends pool their incredible passion and energy, and work together (ha ha) to educate and motivate young people to reduce demand, and to make the adoption process as smooth, efficient and effective as possible.
Just a spark of a plan to get things going.
But no. As you say, it's all or nothing for both sides. Pretty much every issue is like this now. We really need to grow up before it's too late.